irish anthony wrote:craig your right....im truly sorry for bringing your wife and family into something that had nothing to do with them....
im ashamed of myself and im going to remove that statement because it is not how i feel in the slightest...
sorry again...
im sure we both said more than we should...
peace.
Thanks Anthony.
This made me do alot of soul searching though. Especially comments suggesting that the world has to be my vision of it.
I can see very easily how I come across like that.
It is a personal liability and something I need to work on.
I think that I have grown up with alot of people trying to convince me of sh*t, even life changing sh*t that somewhere along the line, I realized that I have wasted sometimes years of my life believing in people, and their agendas, who in the end, only turned out to be charlatans. It made me really learn to be critical in my thinking, which is actually a good thing, but I think it also got confused, where in debating the merits of any issue, I often tend to take it too seriously, as if it is life or death.
As I go back through, I have had some confrontational arguments over religion and politics, but also screamo music? It must have seemed like I was trying to direct Mike's entire career path, and forcefully so. That wasn't really my intention. I was truly trying to understand the lure of it.
But also, I think that I am realizing through this, that I argue my positions passionately and strongly, and not always because I am absolutely, without doubt, sure of each of them, but because I think I feel that if I argue well and strongly enough, it forces the other person to dig deep, for their rebuttals, and through the process I learn which argument has the best merits.
Some issues I have come to believe in without doubt, but others I am sometimes just refining through exchanges of information. But it comes out instead, as if I know everything, and expect everyone to adopt the same positions. In reality, sometime I am just working out my own beliefs, with the debating being the refining fire.
In any event, I need work on my social skills.
And again, I apologize to anyone for anything done intentionally or anything misunderstood.
I like everyone here, and long ago, I learned that I could disagree with anyone on the most serious issues, and look past it at their unique values and qualities.
There is something I have found to appreciate and value about everyone here, and I feel badly, that doesn't always come across.
