Stella Retana wrote:
Ok Kramer I read that post and I thought it was cool that you're a nice guy.
And you Said you Tested the Girls by acting Rude to them, and then still some Females liked you still. that was interesting.
But nobody likes being tested, and so in your mind, is it okay that you tested with Females if they would like you if you weren't nice then it is not ok for a woman to test you?
Its good to feel yourself, there is women who love nice guys, i know cause I WOULD NEVER GET WITH A RUDE GUY and its more attractive to me for a man to be respectful to me. I am not rude to men.
I don't know why any woman would want a rude or cruel guy. But thanks for your honesty and your story. - it just makes me feel even more different than those irritating needy girls.

Thanks for the well-thought out and rational response. While I freely admitted experimenting with "testing", it was really a few very short months, maybe 3-4 if memory serves, and that was back when I was 18-19 years old, many moons ago. As I said, it wasn't ME, and I hated treating anyone like that.
I reserved to myself even back then that I was doomed because I'm a nice guy. And the revelation has proven disturbingly true (you would have to contact me privately to hear that part of the story).
I applaud your openness and honesty, and I don't disbelieve you for one moment that you believe yourself to be a nice girl. It's not a one-sided issue specific to men, although from my previous statements I can see how you could easily take me for being that biased.
I believe there are also 'nice girls' out there who always end up with jerks and suffer the same fates. I think they are far fewer in number and overall percentage of their gender, but that's opinion, and there's no way to back that up. I still feel that all women on at least some fractional level cannot ignore their genetic programming any more than men can, and that leads to some of the problems we have with communicating with each other as well as expectations on roles in the relationship.
Men are dogs, I get it. We are programmed to try and hump the youngest and most attractive doe in the field. We operate in a pack mentality and the alpha male always tags the most women. Women are programmed to be attracted to the alpha because he's clearly the most successful in the pack and would be best suited to care for and protect offspring. The alpha, easily translates to bad boy.
So what I'm saying is that women are always looking for the "upgrade" to a strong alpha if they feel they aren't with one, or a with a weak alpha. I believe some or even many women fail to even realize that on a conscious level. Many others who maybe feel that their current man is the best they can do, will try to change and mold the man into their idea of what he should be like, all the while oppressing who he really is and often pushing him into marriage either passive-aggressively or by using duplicity.
We will probably never, ever shake our genetic dispositions entirely as a race, and many of us have gained remarkable control over our emotions and programming.
Before any of you rake me over the coals, keep in mind, we're also all programmed to be jealous, and to get angry.. so angry at times that we are programmed to kill the source of that anger. It's called blind rage I believe.
My point about that is that is also yet another part of our programming..