joseph6 wrote:I couldn't agree more, Ron. I think that I may not have made myself clear on the issues I'm facing, and using the term "professionalism" may have taken away from the point of the OP.
Ron, I really have a lot of respect for what you are doing, and when you mentioned always being prepared, I have to ask:
What do you do when faced with a musical situation, where the other musicians involved are not prepared?
I guarantee you that if, you asked to perform with the same fellas I'm with now, one of two things would happen:
A: You would decline.
B: You would take over-not because you are an egomaniac, but because your knowledge and professionalism (sorry) gives you an edge over the others.
The reality of the situation is that my area is choc-full of musicians, 95% of which don't understand the finer points of entertainment. They would watch many of you perform and stand there in awe, mouths hanging open. However, when it comes to "taking their craft to the next level", they fall short, no so much due to lack of ability, but more so, due to lack of willingness.
SO, where do you draw the line? At what point do you say "These guys aren't on my level".
What choice would you make when faced with the decision of either playing beneath your ability or not performing in public?
I really would like to read your thoughts on this, because it's a decision I deal with every day... 
My situation is different than many on this forum … I’m a hired gun, I don’t play in one band. So I’m playing with Pro’s most of the time and with some new players that are trying to break into the hire gun scene.
Sometimes I just a hire player, I keep my head down and play my part the we the artist wants. Have stage presents but not be the center of attention.
Sometime I am the musical director (MD), like with Mystic Bowie that I’m about to go on tour with .. I’ll use this as an example.
I’ve played with 2 of the players, this past summer with Mystic, I was just a pick-up player, not the MD. The bass player was killer and guitar player was OK and the drummer sucked. He got fired. If players are not prepared … they get fired
This past Monday at rehearsal the first take on the first song was ruff but it was a difficult song. I stop the song and jumped on everyone a bit and worked out what was needed to make it work.
Take 2 things started to gel, but the guitarist was not playing his cues (it was an answer / call thing between the guit and horns … I stopped the song again told him that he had to have the cue in there. He quickly got the part down and the band smoked the song.
The rest of the day 30 songs were wicked with the exception of some minor arrangement changes and the guitar player not learning his parts. It went so well (besides the guit player) that I canceled Thursday practice and we’ll just have a run though before the show on Friday. I had a talk to the guit player and told him to pull up his socks and learn his parts .. or else. I won’t be asking him back for the next tour … there’s just to many pro guit player around … they’re a dime a dozen.
My expectation are very high if you call yourself a Pro’s, having the chops goes without saying, have a good ear that hears what is needed to make the song work and a heads up attitude to see what the our player are doing and looking for cues so there are no train-wreaks, in control of your volume and to top it all off you have to have a good attitude and work ethic.
I also play in a band that is just for fun … they’re not the best of musicians, but I’ve known and played with them for many years and it’s for fun .. no pressure and not at all challenging for me but I try to get with them once a week … it’s like a boys night out.
I rarely decline on playing with others that don’t play at my level … people played with me when I didn’t play at their level and that’s how I got here, I just don’t put as much effort into it, or I try new thing (fall off a cliff). When playing with them, I tell them little things to watch for, how to listen, this is a big for me, ppl think their listening but they’re not and learn how to play in a band, which sound easy but it’s really not.
I don’t know how to answer you question as to whether to play with other that are not at you level … that’s your call ... I thinks Phil post kinda covers that.
Sorry for the long post ... I think I got carried away again
Ron