Chris4Blues wrote:jimmydanger wrote:Thanks Chris, apparently I've already been dumped, she won't answer her phone. BTW, I am in three bands but each only rehearses once a week. That's three nights. But I guess your right; either I cut back or go stag.
or find a g/f who understands music is a huge part of your life and she's welcome to come along for the ride, but set realistic expections at the outset. ^.^
g/l
Chris
Very true Jimmy. Sorry to hear about your girl. I think it is a struggle for all musicians, men and women, because music demands so much of our focus and attention as performing artists. We put so much of ourselves into every note that we play, and sometimes there's not much left to give to anyone else. Sorry to go so deep

, but I found that to be true in my life.
I was lucky enough to marry a vocalist/dancer, so she gets it, and she comes with me to most of my live gigs. She understands that after a long studio session, or a rough live gig, I'm going to be spent! Even still, sometimes it gets old for her too. In part, this is why I'm mainly doing studio stuff. I'll do occasional one-off gigs for artists that I've recorded for, but I'm not in a band. This arrangement works for me, and I'm confident that you'll find what works for you, and it will work with all of your relationships as well.