General Music Chat

Hey Sans, hang in there man and always carry positive thoughts. I'll be sending up some musical prayers for ya......

Me too. Keep us posted.

Hello Sanshouheil,
We are all effected so differently by this when it happens, yet in many ways we go through much that is the same... the trouble is dealing with something you have had in most cases no similar practice for.

My mum went to cancer four years ago, after 26 years fighting a type that generally takes people quite quickly.
She laughed and scoffed at it right till the final month or two when it really started to get her down.
In the final weeks our priority was to try to keep some quality of life going for her after an active life spent going everywhere and doing everything you can imagine.

Mum was still out in my garden one rather chilly spring evening, and working on a knitted bed quilt for my daughter who was then six months old; "come in Mum it's getting cold out here!" I called to her, and her response was: "Just need to finish this bit... I may not get many more chances".
It still chokes me a bit now remembering her words, and seeing her putting her final days and energy into something to leave for her new granddaughter.

It leaves me clinging onto my dad a bit now, though he is older than Mum being 82; but he's not wasting time waiting for the innevitable... he has got a young girlfriend, well, 65!

With Mum I kept waiting for the right time to say things... don't do that! Say it while he's still there! I don't mean the sloppy stuff; tell his where he might have made the effort to take you... or something that pissed you off... it gets things out and aired.

Atheists aren't that good at prayers, but Sister Stella (in the new song on my profile) at the priory is very good, and will be very happy to send prayers from her and her Sisters I am certain.
Mark D Phillips...................

Thanks for the kind words and sentaments. I will bump and post info after his appointment. I know in my heart God's will be done. Thank you for your prayer in our behalf.

All Gods Blessings to you and your Dad,my main man all will be fine.

George your in my thoughts and prayers.

Im sorry I just saw this, I dont read everything on here anymore.

Keep your head up and keep his head up also.

Thanks John and Eric.

Mark, the air between my father and I is quite clear. We talk and share like best friends these days (most of the time).
Thank you for your kind thoughts. I am sure they are as good as prayers.

Hello Sanshoiheil,
To be open and relaxed with your dad is I think the gift that allows you to be easy and accepting of what may be to come.
My mum and I were very relaxed with each other, but had always talked more about stuff around, than about ourselves; which of course in every day life is what we mostly do... suddenly faced with our approaching final conversation, it gets much harder to know what to say: do you tell each other how we are still confident we can beat the cancer, and in the process waste valuable final hours talking bollocks... or should I have said, "look Mum, I know you will be going soon so is there anything you particularly want us to talk about?" when the last thing she wants is to have the fact of her demise presented to her like an appointment with the dentist!
The reality is that whatever way you play it will probably be a bit wrong and a bit right... it was my internet friend in Vancouver who urged me to have some kind of soul opening session, even if it felt really awkward and embarrassing at the time.
He was right too... after it I just felt something had been done that needed doing.
We all have to go sooner or later... even Christians with the promise of a wonderful hereafter don't seem in any more hurry to go than the rest of us sinners!
Things will be right in the end.
Mark P...................

Thanks Mark if by chance the cancer problem looks to be unbeatable I will indeed follow said wisdoms.

Religous plug: Christians are no better or stronger than non Christians.
All are equil in the sight of God. It,s said in the Bible that faith the size of a mustard seed could move the mountains.
I dont see any mountains moving with the exception of nature rearranging our geography. Even those who know no fear of death (if there truly are any) have only known life.

If we say we have no sin, we decieve ourselves, and the truth is not in us.

Update:
Dad went through his bladder surgery / biopsy today. Again they used the natural opening (eeeouuwch) so no incision. everything went according to Hoyle and I have him and Mom back at their home already.
Cytology report should be in on Thursday.
I'll keep ya'll posted.

Thank you All so much for your considerations during this trial.

George,
Good to know all went well.
John & Cin

Still pullin' for ya, man, out here in the STICKS.

John & Cin

I thought it was Jay

George, hope he'll be fine. The weather has been slightly better, I suppose.

Just the first letter, Andy.