Ok,
Get ready.
You asked for help in finding or forming a band, but not on your vocal skills or much else, but I'm gonna give it all to you, and give it to you straight.
When I read your post, asking for help finding or forming a band, I immediately went to your profile, so I could tell you the first thing to do, and which you probably had not done, namely...
Put audio samples of your singing up!
Well, imagine my surprise when, lo and behold, you stole that from me, by already having samples up. Way to go girl!
I was impressed by that, so I listened to every song you posted (for some reason, the last two songs don't play for me though)
Then, I was impressed again, that you not only posted audio of your voice, but you posted raw audio, with no music, and no effects. Just laid it out there for everyone.
That takes courage (or stupidity, if you happened to be one of these American Idol wannabes that are included on the show, only for the comedic value of their believing they can sing, when they cannot)
But you were not in this category.
You can actually sing.
So, major kudos for all of the above!
First, my observation of your voice...
You have potential. That is a complement, because as anyone here knows, I am a perfectionist when it comes to judging vocal ability.
You have a good voice. It needs improvement, but you have a good voice, and a voice with some personality as well as some versatility. Very good start! You need a little more control, and better breathing technique, and you will get alot more out of your voice. You are not always staying in key or pitch throughout the entire songs, but it is really not that bad, and you are actually doing pretty well, with the kind of material you are singing and doing so without any music accompanying you. It could be that you are actually changing keys on purpose though, since I can't hear the instrumentation you probably hear in your own head while you sing. Even if that is the case, you go a little flat here and there, but some of that may be attributable to the emotion you are putting into it. So these last points may be nominal. I like the emotion by the way. You have some fearlessness in singing without effects or music. I like that. I love that!
Having said all that, let me now say, that you DO have a good voice, and definite potential. I could name some famous female singers that you are clearly better than, so you have a good enough voice to front a band. It could be better though. I think with learning better breathing and practicing better control, you could be really good, instead of just "good".
You could get a vocal coach, or find some free vocal coaching helps online. It will make a difference, trust me, if you understand how sound is produced in the body, and learn the techniques to maximize this.
I think it is very very good, that you appear so serious about this as a career. I think if you follow your dream, learn as you go, and stay determined, you will find some success.
Let me just take issue with one statement you made though...
"I have the potential and know how to make it in the music industry"
As a stickler for detail, let me correct you, that... YOU DO NOT know how to make it in the music industry. Even the music industry does not know how to make it in the music industry, which is why as many as 90% of all signed artists, go NOWHERE, and are shelved and never heard from again, and also why the major labels are failing themselves and struggling to avoid complete paralysis as we speak.
No one "knows" how to make it in the music industry, all that can be known is how best to position yourself, from all available experience and history, to give yourself the best "shot" at making it, in the music industry. There are a plethora of artists who had it all, and should have "made it" but didn't, for whatever reasons there may have been. There are international artists which are as big in other countries as Elvis was here, and yet, try as they might, every effort to help them crack this market failed, and they never saw the success here, that they did, say in Europe.
Just helping give a little clarity and humility. You may know "what it takes to best position yourself for success" but not even the music industry itself "knows" with certainty what it takes to "make it". There are too many variables, and the public is a fickle lot.
Finding Bands...
You took a good step in posting here in Bandmix. You should also post classifieds in Myspace and Craig's List and everywhere else you can find. Post a flyer in ALL your local music stores, like Guitar Center, or whatever the big ones are in your area. Small ones too! Go to all the open mic nights you can find, on a regular basis. When you figure out which ones have the best draw of musicians, you will begin to network with the friends you make. Appeal to your own circle of friends as well. Chances are, your friends and family, either know someone who plays, or is a friend of a friend, of someone who plays. Read the best local entertainment newspapers and magazines in your area, and find out what is going on, every single week, and become more a part of the scene. These usually have classifieds as well, either free or paid. Find out which mags the musicians really use. A music store will help you with this, as there are classifieds with a dozen listings, and then there may be the mag, that all the musicians "really" use, which could have dozens and dozens, and even hundreds of listings.
You'll find alot of veteran musicians here, who can help answer many of your questions as well, so stay around and participate a little, because they have a wealth of knowledge and they are generous enough to give it out for free!
Lastly, good luck. You have impressed me a little on first glance, and I think you may impress me alot, as some time goes by and you hone your craft and begin forming your band.
I think you are a flower ready to bloom!
Best of luck in your career!