Bob - no, you're doing it right! Time is too short (specially when you get to our age group!) to waste any more of it. If you don't get answers to your questions, then you know that they were not the right fit.
A couple of years ago I was contacted (through BM) to join a trio, and I didn't ask the right questions to start (which for me are different than your questions). Wasted several months of time to find out the trio's "leader" didn't know how to get a paying gig, and really didn't care if he got one - he was happy to play for free so that he could play his originals in front of people.
A couple of years ago I was contacted (through BM) to join a trio, and I didn't ask the right questions to start (which for me are different than your questions). Wasted several months of time to find out the trio's "leader" didn't know how to get a paying gig, and really didn't care if he got one - he was happy to play for free so that he could play his originals in front of people.
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