Two points:
1) It is pretty scary that Americans joke about sodomy in our prisons, and we've all done it. Yet we pretend that this is a free country and superior to others in respect to human rights. That we tolerate this is horrifying. That is torture - the very thing our 'leaders' have denounced as intolerable.
2) A loving God - in the person of Christ, told us very explicitly that if He the teacher would have to suffer, His followers could expect the same.
He is not our doting grandfather in the sky. He created the universe and His ways are not ours. If I die today - that's a big deal to me - maybe not to Him Who looks at our lives from the perspective of our eternal lives - of which this is a very small part.
Christianity is not a religion for the weak. Sometimes I wish it were, but there it is. The only question that really matters is this: Is it True? If it is well - that is something to think about. As Dilbert noted when confronted with this question - "It could impact the kind of files I download."
Talbot