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Maybe the person is chased off by my persistence or is not used to seeing my kind of complaining and mistakes it for spam?

But in short no matter what I try, whether I try to take the direct approach (posting an ad for a keyboard player on a site like Craigslist or a site like this, or a printed copy at a music store) or take the indirect approach (asking music teachers and band members in my area on Craigslist, asking people on the forums of sites like this), I can't seem to reach anybody promising. It always seems to reach someone who doesn't know how to handle the situation and who is easily angered, and who can't fully relate to what I'm looking for, and if I want to discuss something in more detail, or want to learn how to use something more effectively, that person will get butt hurt for no reason, in the case of the indirect approach, and in the case of the direct approach, my ad seems to reach people who are a little bit too far ahead in their music pursuit. By that, I mean, people who already have a big music project going, and who play out a lot, or who are music producers, as opposed to a college student who plays a little music on the side, and maybe has some general friends to go to the movies with, or to hang out and play video games with, but doesn't yet have a friend who enjoys playing pop and soft rock music with.

And again, as noted, a lot of the people who would reccommend certain sites, again, didn't show any consideration for what I'm looking to accomplish. A lot of the people (wheter on this site or on some other site like Craigslist or Baton Rouge Rocks) would assume I'm this highly experienced musician ready to join a band, when I'm just a guy looking for a guy around my age who just happens to play keyboard for enjoyment, and who I can hang out with, and maybe do other things with.

Another thing that aggravates me is that I'd sometimes ask around on Craigslist, and reach people who weren't smart enough to read my whole message. The reason I say that is due to the way in which they responded. For example, I would state in my message that I'm not interested in joining a band, and get back a responses saying that the person would use me if they needed a keyboard player.

Another thing I don't understand is why people got so frustrated when I stressed that in order to find a guy who's into the music I enjoy, that I need to form good quality networking circles, people on BRR, would get REALLY upset. What is the deal with that? This goes for people who directly responded to my ad, gave a try musically, but didn't work out, but saw potential in as just general friend who could possibly introduce me to more musicians.