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Also as stated in previous posts, and a lot of you guys seem to not acknolwedge it or just ignore it altogether, but these particular guys I'm looking for CANNOT be found easily at one place. I need to search at a variety of music themed ares, and form networking circles. This includes searching at places from a casual standpoint, as opposed to actively attending the given place. For example, checking out the audience of a church in my area through that churches online message board.

This includes simply creating profiles on sites like this and sharing what I do, and having a wider variety of places to post ads, AND possibly mingle.

Going to one church WILL or posting an ad at one music store is NOT going to be enough. I need a wider variety of options. Please, help me learn about those options, and don't be afraid to share your experiences, provided you are into some of the music I enjoy and have similar music goals.

Just because I say something isn't going to work in general, and point out some of the limitations of the given suggestion, that doesn't mean I'm not willing to try it at all.

I would try the dating site idea, as long as I could make a disctinct profile requesting the guy as a friend only, and not have to worry about filling out stupid stuff, like height, eye color, weight, hair color, and well, trivial personal appearance stuff. What's important to me is where the guy is in life, whether or not he and I share similar music tastes, and of course, wanting to do other activities together. This guy I'm looking for can be gay, straight or bi, married, have a boyfriend/girlfriend, or be single.

Any GOOD ideas? The ones that I've come across either have way too stuff on the site, and have a very ugly presentation, are not very easy to use, don't provide enough of the features I need in order to reach the right people or are sites that I have to pay to use their services or the full service.

Keep in mind that some of websites might be those spread through word of mouth, and thus may not be in the database of Google, or Yahoo or any other major search engine.

All of you guys are onto something, but each one of these suggestions has it's limitations. Plus, I need to know of specifics, like some churches within Baton Rouge to try, or some good quality dating sites among many other thngs, and be able to actually talk with the person about his experiences and find out if said church/music store/webiste or whatever will work for me.

All the things you guys call excuses, they are actually me using common sense.

lol I can't stop laughing from this thread...

lol I can't stop laughing from this thread...

Why do you find this funny? Talk to me so I can understand you guys better. Be cool and don't make fun of others.

By the way, that wasn't the purpose of this thread. The purpose of this thread was to learn about a middle ground area where I can mingle with other like-minded musicians like myself, since churches and bars and clubs aren't working too well for me. Don't get distracted and start encourageing people to give up on me, and saying ugly things about me.

Also I wouldn't have had to make this thread, if most of you guys listened to me, and saw that I was trying to use common sense, rather than trying to convince me that I'm wrong, and wrongfully acusing me of making excuses.

1/3 what has been said.

1/3 is that pic of the guy punching a dead horse.

1/3 is that lame ass cat.

Sorry Cliff, not ragging you...gotta find levity where ever it is.

lol I can't stop laughing from this thread...

You know how when we view a you-tube video, we invariably get snagged in by an ad, first? Well, it's no different with Glambert. I come to the forum and now I gotta wade through his post first... The thing is, I don't use the ignore button, cause i can 'skip this Glambert in 4 seconds' lol!

Cliffy doesn't bug me.

I could never stick him in the limbo of IGNORE...but he's a bit unrealistic.

It's bad out there. I am going back and forth about playing for a tribute band that's doing Pink Floyd et al and YOU KNOW I don't really want to play any covers. I just like to perform and I would be joining their setup, so I won't have to perform/endure the mgmt part of the equation.

Seems like that is the worst, managing the people.
The music is easy, the people are difficult and the egos are huge.

Lucky I don't have any ego at all else I might never play with anyone because I wasn't willing to try anything I wasn't 10000% focused on..sound familiar Cliff?

I wonder what Les is doing? Practicing choke holds and looking for people to control is my guess.

Smart money says that you play with most everyone you can stand and you search for that special setup that promotes your strengths and minimizes your weaknesses and above all, you don't wait for them to come to you... oh nooo. Did Mohammed come to the mountain or did the mountain come to Mohammed? That mountain never moved an inch...

Please excuse my spelling and screw my punctuation. LOL

Why aren't you guys being cool in my topics? Just help me discover something better than what has already been suggested. Help me discover something better place to search for guys around my age who have a passion for good pop and soft rock music, besdies a church or a nightclub or bar. Focus, people. Focus!

Why aren't you guys being cool in my topics? Just help me discover something better than what has already been suggested. Help me discover something better place to search for guys around my age who have a passion for good pop and soft rock music, besdies a church or a nightclub or bar. Focus, people. Focus!

Dude, what do you expect from us?
You want everyone to hold your dick while you pee, too?
Use your imagination, if you have one.
Jesus!

Cliffy doesn't bug me.

I could never stick him in the limbo of IGNORE...but he's a bit unrealistic.

It's bad out there. I am going back and forth about playing for a tribute band that's doing Pink Floyd et al and YOU KNOW I don't really want to play any covers. I just like to perform and I would be joining their setup, so I won't have to perform/endure the mgmt part of the equation.

Seems like that is the worst, managing the people.
The music is easy, the people are difficult and the egos are huge.

Lucky I don't have any ego at all else I might never play with anyone because I wasn't willing to try anything I wasn't 10000% focused on..sound familiar Cliff?

I wonder what Les is doing? Practicing choke holds and looking for people to control is my guess.

Smart money says that you play with most everyone you can stand and you search for that special setup that promotes your strengths and minimizes your weaknesses and above all, you don't wait for them to come to you... oh nooo. Did Mohammed come to the mountain or did the mountain come to Mohammed? That mountain never moved an inch...

Please excuse my spelling and screw my punctuation. LOL

I'm a bit unrealistc? How? Finding someone who likes more of the music I enjoy will mean a lot to me as opposed to just playing with anybody. And as stated, I'm tired of reaching the individuals who are ACTIVE performers and are currently committed to other music projects. This includes people who play in church bands and groups, and who perform regularly in the BR community.

Also I'm getting the impression that a lot of you guys CANNOT relate to the kind of friend I'm looking for because ALL you guys can think about is making money playing music, and "being cool".

Why aren't you guys being cool in my topics? Just help me discover something better than what has already been suggested. Help me discover something better place to search for guys around my age who have a passion for good pop and soft rock music, besdies a church or a nightclub or bar. Focus, people. Focus!

Dude, what do you expect from us?
You want everyone to hold your dick while you pee, too?
Use your imagination, if you have one.
Jesus!

Again, why is everybody giving me the third degree? I need help gaining some new knowledge of what's out there by TALKING to people. What happened to that kind of help? Why is everybody here so "do it yourself" these days?

Stop jumping to the worst case scenario. You guys are going about this ALL the wrong way, and are giving me the third degree over some stupid missunderstanding. I am NOT helpless. I have run out of GOOD ideas, and useful tools to use. Once you guys can show me some good tools to use, and help show me how to use them effectively, then I can figure out the rest.

Why aren't you guys being cool in my topics? Just help me discover something better than what has already been suggested. Help me discover something better place to search for guys around my age who have a passion for good pop and soft rock music, besdies a church or a nightclub or bar. Focus, people. Focus!

Dude, what do you expect from us?
You want everyone to hold your dick while you pee, too?
Use your imagination, if you have one.
Jesus!

Again, why is everybody giving me the third degree? I need help gaining some new knowledge of what's out there by TALKING to people. What happened to that kind of help? Why is everybody here so "do it yourself" these days?

Stop jumping to the worst case scenario. You guys are going about this ALL the wrong way. I am NOT helpless. I have run out of GOOD ideas, and useful tools to use.

I and a few others have offered our suggestions.
We TRIED to help.
You rejected them all and continue whining about it.
I am getting the impression that you need a therapist more than a musician friend.
JIMHO.

Why aren't you guys being cool in my topics? Just help me discover something better than what has already been suggested. Help me discover something better place to search for guys around my age who have a passion for good pop and soft rock music, besdies a church or a nightclub or bar. Focus, people. Focus!

Dude, what do you expect from us?
You want everyone to hold your dick while you pee, too?
Use your imagination, if you have one.
Jesus!

Again, why is everybody giving me the third degree? I need help gaining some new knowledge of what's out there by TALKING to people. What happened to that kind of help? Why is everybody here so "do it yourself" these days?

Stop jumping to the worst case scenario. You guys are going about this ALL the wrong way. I am NOT helpless. I have run out of GOOD ideas, and useful tools to use.

I and a few others have offered our suggestions.
We TRIED to help.
You rejected them all and continue whining about it.
I am getting the impression that you need a therapist more than a musician friend.
JIMHO.

I did NOT reject them to be rude. I simply told you that they didn't work, or that it wasn't going to be a very effective way to go about it.

I do NOT need a therapist. People like you need to stop being so damn sensitive.

And also QUIT acusing me of whining. When I tell you that that given suggestion isn't going to work. Listen! I have a justifiable reason behind it, based on personal experience, and based on common sense.

And don't give up on me so quickly. Work with me instead of trying to convince me to go along with what EVERYBODY else does.

Also I don't understand why some of you don't acknowledge them, but I even gave you guys some good hints on how to help me better. Why did you guys ignore those hints? For example, when I stated that connecting with some music teachers in my area who teach keyboard and seeing if they have any advanced students around my age who like pop and soft rock music, or learning about more sites similar to this where I can at least put up some videos, or when I suggested connecting with some individuals who play video games, and seeing if I could meet some musicians through them, among MANY, MANY others.

And why do you guys proceed to wrongfully acuse me of making excuses, when I tell you that I've already tried that suggestion, and it didn't work out or when I explain to you truthfully using common sense, why that given suggestion isn't the best option for me?

For example, the whole church thing couldv'e been handeled a lot better. You guys shouldv'e agreed with me, and then gave another good suggestion.

Also TALKING with the given person about how to make good use of that suggestion would be helpful as well, whether it's a website, or a physical place.

Also being able to talk with more guys who share my music tastes and find out what they've tried would be helpful as well.