I'd hate to have to make that decision...I've had back trouble since about age 12 or so. As best I can tell it started when some idiot twice my size decided it would be fun to push me off the slide at school, age 10. I felt it pop, a couple of years later it started really acting up. Most of my family thought I was faking for 10-15 years.
I've had to play on a stool probably 20-30 times, fortunately the bands I've worked with have always been willing to handle my heavy gear since I Usually pitch in. But it really sucks, go to a gig already doing enough pain killers put most people out for 2 days, and still hurting. It hurts like nothing you ever felt if you've never been through it. I've talked to women who told me they would rather go through childbirth again.
I also have a serious tolerance for pain killers. 100mg Demerol will put most people out till tomorrow afternoon...it won't knock out a headache. I'm ever so glad I don't get headaches once every 2-3 years normally...ditto for Vicodin. 2 might knock out a headache...maybe...2 Vicodin will put most people in lala land all day...I can't tell I took 2 of them.
So when my back decides to act up, it's no fun. I try to be careful, I can do things you wouldn't think a guy my size would tackle, but I have to be very careful how I do it. I've learned over 40 years how to tell when not to push it, and how not to lift things. I picked up a paper cup once and spent the next 2 weeks in excruciating pain...all it takes is bending over wrong.
I'd hate to have to make that decision, but I understand why he did, I worry every time I have to move my 80lb Super Reverb...I don't move around onstage the same as I once did, I still move around, just not as much or as energetic. Being over 55 doesn't help either I guess...
I think I have something going on in my neck just recently too, since the move to Texas, I've been dealing with what was described above. Index finger of my right hand tingles like it's half asleep most of the time, if I move my neck just right the whole arm does it. Nerve pinched or irritated somewhere, and at times it feels like just above the shoulders, right side of the neck. Not fun...Right now the index finger hurts occasionally.
Like George I've known too many people who had surgery, usually it does more harm than good. My neighbor here has lived on pain killers for over 20 years, ever stronger and stronger as she develops a greater tolerance. I think she had 3 surgeries, still has problems.
Jeff your friend has my condolences, that's a tough decision, but it's his call. I'm not sure what I would decide, so far it's been keep on rockin...
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