That's strange! Hope your ex didn't figure out your password here!
Not sure if you saw my last reply. I'll try to recreate it.
Given the kind of music you want to do, your youtube demos may not be helping you too much - other than to show that you CAN sing!
You should get out to some places in your area where bands are playing the kind of music you want to do, then during one of their breaks go and talk to them and see if they'll let you sing one song with them - you can even go out in the parking lot and do a quick a capella song so they can hear you first. Bring a friend with a HD video camera to video you when you do the song, it'll give a much better look at what you really want to do.
In the meantime, start searching for band members.
Good luck
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