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I wish you the best of luck in your endeavors!

Geeze sounds like an echo in here.. lol

what?...what?...what?..wha?...

Never been diagnosd with Asperger's or Tourette's, but I have been diagnosed with ADHD and later OCD. But I don't think that has ANYTHING to do with my current situation where i can't find any decent guys to become friends with and work on some pop and soft rock music together.

Sorry if the OCD IS showing up on this forum though in the form of me being persistent.

One cannot hide such a condition, It really exposes itself openly...even though its not intentional...
You've been searching for this type of person for 6, maybe 7 years? and the specifications are actually unreachable, hence the perpetual goal of pursuit. (Aka obsession)

Persistence recognizes when its time to quit. OCD does not, and that's the difference here.

I would ask that perhaps you might consider the following:
1) Accept that the type of person you are seeking, just simply does not exist.
2) End your pursuit for such a person...(You may actually find and enjoy a sense of relief, long overdue)
3) Write and compose some music about this journey's end. Its acreative way to close out a chapter and begin a new one...

The specifications aren't unreachable. Stop thinking about this from a professional standpoint and start thinking about this from a friendship standpoint. Over the course of this search, I have met a few people (both online and in person) who were much more sensitive to what I was looking for and who were nice enough to wish me luck when they weren't able to help me further.

I know these guys I'm looking for are out there. I JUST need to talk with a few guys in their 20s who are at the intermediate level, and aren't active musicians who play more of the music I enjoy and find out what they've tried.

Never been diagnosd with Asperger's or Tourette's, but I have been diagnosed with ADHD and later OCD. But I don't think that has ANYTHING to do with my current situation where i can't find any decent guys to become friends with and work on some pop and soft rock music together.

Sorry if the OCD IS showing up on this forum though in the form of me being persistent.

One cannot hide such a condition, It really exposes itself openly...even though its not intentional...
You've been searching for this type of person for 6, maybe 7 years? and the specifications are actually unreachable, hence the perpetual goal of pursuit. (Aka obsession)

Persistence recognizes when its time to quit. OCD does not, and that's the difference here.

I would ask that perhaps you might consider the following:
1) Accept that the type of person you are seeking, just simply does not exist.
2) End your pursuit for such a person...(You may actually find and enjoy a sense of relief, long overdue)
3) Write and compose some music about this journey's end. Its acreative way to close out a chapter and begin a new one...

The specifications aren't unreachable. Stop thinking about this from a professional standpoint and start thinking about this from a friendship standpoint. Over the course of this search, I have met a few people (both online and in person) who were much more sensitive to what I was looking for and who were nice enough to wish me luck when they weren't able to help me further.

I know these guys I'm looking for are out there. I JUST need to talk with a few guys around my age who play more of the music I enjoy and find out what they've tried. So promise me, you and others who are currently responding will give those people a chance to respond.

Cant promise you anything... In the first place, I have no control over what others wish to post. Its not my place to dictate that (nor is it yours) . Second, in addition to your OCD symptoms, you are quite a stubborn individual. I cant imagine anybody that would "want" to be your friend. You offer nothing but discourse , you are arrogant, un interesting and quite frankly the biggest ass, this week on BM.

"You offer nothing but discourse , you are arrogant, un interesting and quite frankly the biggest ass, this week on BM."


That's a superficial view of me BASED on what you see purely through the internet and me trying to talk some sense into the people who were the wrong people to be helping me to begin with. In other words, people who didn't look at the clues first hand, like how I needed help from people within my city, rather than recieving help from soemone in another city who can only provide me with general information. Or recieving help from someone who is into heavy metal, hard rock, or Christian contemporary when I need to recieve help from someone who is into pop and soft rock music from the 80s to today. I encountered the same kind of individuals on Baton Rouge Rocks, who ALSO didn't look at the clues I gave first hand. If the website has a profile page, I also try to put those clues there as well.

I am so fed up with people. That's ALL I ever deal with during this search. I am even quite thorough in my ads, and the wrong people STILL responded, or people would pick the most odd times out of their day to respond. For example, instead of responding AFTER classes ended, or after work ended, they would call right when they were late for class, or heading off to work. For an example of the former, I would get a call from someone who is more skilled in playing heavy metal, and doesn't know a single light rock/soft rock song or I would get a call from soemone who wanted to hire me to play in his band.

I am NOTHING like what you said. I have a good heart, and I am a humble person. And also there's more to me than just music and video games.

Also I ONLY come off as an ass to people who deserve it, but even then, I still try to be nice. If you think I'm coming off as an ass, that's your problem. If you had just wished me luck early on after I told you who I needed help from, that would have sufficed.

If you need an more "appropriate" forum ... why the hell are you still here?

Stop wasting your and our time and GO FIND WHAT YOU NEED.

It's not just going to fall in your lap ...


Now go ... and may the force be with you.

If you need an more "appropriate" forum ... why the hell are you still here?

Stop wasting your and our time and GO FIND WHAT YOU NEED.

It's not just going to fall in your lap ...


Now go ... and may the force be with you.

Why am I still here? Because this is the ONLY place I know of. I'm waiting for the desired audience to respond. In other words, I need to reach guys around my age who are NOT professional working musicians and who are NOT active musicians already in a band. No matter which message board or ad posting site I try, my posts always reach people who are too experienced and already committed to other bands, when I'm trying to reach guys in college who happen to play keyboard or guitar and who just happen to play pop and soft rock covers for fun, but might have other music goals for later and are the kind of person who just lets things happen naturally.

At the risk of being repeatedly redundant ...

You will have to use your shoe-leather.

There is no easy way.
No magic pill.

You will have to go where people your age into music go.

Local colleges, music stores, coffee shops that sponsor gigs ETC.

You have to meet and greet a lot of people whom don't fill your need because THEY will know the people that will.

At the risk of being repeatedly redundant ...

You will have to use your shoe-leather.

There is no easy way.
No magic pill.

You will have to go where people your age into music go.

Local colleges, music stores, coffee shops that sponsor gigs ETC.

You have to meet and greet a lot of people whom don't fill your need because THEY will know the people that will.

As I've said, I know what I need to try in general, but I need to talk to guys in their 20s in Baton Rouge who can help me learn about where pop and soft rock music is more commonly played in my area. The only place I can do that right now is here.

I have been trying to do that in the local musician section of Craigslist, but for some reason, there aren't a lot of music teachers on that site.

Also note that some of the music qualities I'm looking for in these music buddies, cannot be found at Open Mics, because I'm looking for someone who can show me how to recreate some of my favorite dance-pop and synth pop songs using computer software.

WOW . . . . I too have been waiting here to find a bass player that is 5'9", black hair, goatee (2" in length), medium build, plays lefty, has a Marcus Miller signature bass strung upside down of course, who owns a blue Chevy Malibu, that is married to a beautiful Asian woman who unfortunately lost both her index finger tips and now uses the same prosthetic tips that Tommy Iommi uses!

I just know he's here . . . I know it in my widdle heart!!

WOW . . . . I too have been waiting here to find a bass player that is 5'9", black hair, goatee (2" in length), medium build, plays lefty, has a Marcus Miller signature bass strung upside down of course, who owns a blue Chevy Malibu, that is married to a beautiful Asian woman who unfortunately lost both her index finger tips and now uses the same prosthetic tips that Tommy Iommi uses!

I just know he's here . . . I know it in my widdle heart!!

ENOUGH is ENOUGH! You people are taking this TOO far. I'm sorry if you guys are missunderstanding everything and are handling this poorly. I didn't come here to start any arguments or to make anyone upset.


Look at the clues so you can get a better idea of whether you can help me gain the knowledge I need, rather than just giving general advice. I already knew in general what I should try, I just don't know the names of these specific places in Baton Rouge to try. And it helps to get feedback from people who play in similar genres, and have similar music goals, that way those people are on the same page, and we can connect better.

"Glambert" let me be the first to give you the middle finger.

You are a freak and I'd bet serious cash you never played with anyone at any time, but yet you still have demands etc.

In short, you are delusional.

Take down the barriers, seek out other musicians in the flesh and experiment.

Otherwise you may as well throw your keyboard in the chipper and take a flying leap because you aren't going to accomplish anything this way.

'Glambert' - read all the repsonses. Stop and think about it - everyone in this place is telling you the same thing: you are not going to find someone HERE to help you anymore than has already been done. There is no magic Glambert-clone here who is going to take you by the hand and show you where to find others in Baton Rouge.
Everything you respond with shows that you are close-minded and do not want to take any advice other than from this fictional clone you seek. Whether they are older or like different music is irrelevant when trying to get advice.
Your diatribe about people calling you when 'they're busy' is pretty obvious - after a few words with you, they realize 'oh-oh' and make an excuse to get off the call!

I wasn't going to respond anymore to this thread, but hopefully if enough people keep telling you the same thing, it will sink in (maybe not )

'Glambert' - read all the repsonses. Stop and think about it - everyone in this place is telling you the same thing: you are not going to find someone HERE to help you anymore than has already been done. There is no magic Glambert-clone here who is going to take you by the hand and show you where to find others in Baton Rouge.
Everything you respond with shows that you are close-minded and do not want to take any advice other than from this fictional clone you seek. Whether they are older or like different music is irrelevant when trying to get advice.
Your diatribe about people calling you when 'they're busy' is pretty obvious - after a few words with you, they realize 'oh-oh' and make an excuse to get off the call!

I wasn't going to respond anymore to this thread, but hopefully if enough people keep telling you the same thing, it will sink in (maybe not )

STOP with this whole clone, hand-holding thing. I do however, need at least one of my topics to reach A FEW guys in the Baton Rouge area who are into the kind of music I enjoy. Give them a chance to show up.

I have READ and completely understand everybody's reply.

"Your diatribe about people calling you when 'they're busy' is pretty obvious - after a few words with you, they realize 'oh-oh' and make an excuse to get off the call!"

Whatever happened to HONESTY? Why did they have to make up some dumb excuse like that? That's the VERY thing I was trying to avoid. That was very poorly handled and the person who responded MIGHT have been the individual who I was looking for. If I was responding to an ad and misread it or had a change of heart, I would simply tell them straight up instead of being shy about it. I'd rather be honest than make up an excuse.

And again, I'm referring to ads posted in ANY form: hard copies posted at music stores or at Baton Rouge Community College, or online versions of it posted on Craigslist.

I'm looking at Craigslist Baton Rouge

http://batonrouge.craigslist.org/muc/

There are 100's of musicians that play pop and soft rock

I'm looking at Craigslist Baton Rouge

http://batonrouge.craigslist.org/muc/

There are 100's of musicians that play pop and soft rock

No there AREN'T! Everybody on that site is either looking for a job, or promoting their job or in a gigging/working band and looking to fill a spot. And the most common genres on that site are blues, heavy metal, and hard rock and alternative indie and occasionally, Christian and gospel. And also there is no one on that site who is looking for a friend around the same age who simply wants to get together to work on some pop and soft rock songs together, and just hang out.