General Music Chat

I hope you find forgiveness and all that you need to get through this. Don't think all's lost for one moment. You're alive and on a road to recovery.
Be strong man. One minute one hour one day at a time. I wish you well every time I come here.
Peace

Thank you all for your encouraging words and even putting me in my place. Understand that at times, all seems lost emotionally, physically and spiritually! It's freakin' hard. Never experienced this before so try understand my silly vents. I sometimes just wanna give up and let myself just go but that would be like spitting in the face of my Lord for all the gifts he's given me and just throwing it away. I WILL work my ass off and concentrate 1st on strengthening this arm b4 I start with the music route.. One day at a time and one painful minute at a time. My body is having problms accepting this metal as being a part of it and that's causing quite some pain until it realizes it's not going anywhere! Again, thanx guys for ur wonderful, caring words of wisdom and pleas bear with me when I DO vent when my pain is at it's worse! THANK YOU!

Depression is a serious enemy and will be a very hard thing to overcome. But it will also make you a lot stronger in the end. I have lost several friends in the last year on bikes . I am really glad to see you are such a strong survivor and I have no doubt you will be back to things that you love before you know it.

Remember this is what I do for a living Kerry.
I am in contact daily with people whom have had horrific debilitating events.
I see them recover to miraculous levels most times as well.

Your spirit is your strongest asset ... if you need to vent from frustration by all means do so.
I'll still be the one at the bed side telling you to get your ass up and move.



Sympathy, is forcing you to do what you don't think you can do.
Even if you have to hate me for it.

Kerry,

Perhaps this may help.

If you are a Christian, then you have died to yourself. Salvation is when you die to self and begin living in Christ. So if you have died to yourself, then it is Christ within you who has to deal with forgiving him.

This is my frame of mind whenever some one does me wrong. "Lord, he sure got you that time, I'm glad I'm not him." And I set my will to forgive and I forget, I no longer bear the extra burden of un forgiveness towards anyone.

Having that presence of mind makes it easy to forgive everything, after all, they didn't transgress against me, they did it to Christ. So what do I have to forgive? I'm dead, or at least I was supposed to have died. My baptism depicted my death and my rising as a new creature.

As far as the healing, that is always a slow tedious process. I don't think God allows things to see how well we can bear it. I think he allows these things to happen so we can see our own inner strengths and weakness, and make adjustments accordingly.
When I was in a bike accident I almost died. The woman was never caught, but I harbored no ill will against her, it wasn't my place to do so.

I understand that God has everything under control. When something happens, my first question is. "OK What are you trying to show me in this?" Sometimes I get an answer, other times I learn the answer myself in time.

I hope it all works out for you. Keep a positive attitude.

Kerry, it seems I remember you saying in the past you quit playing guitar for an extended period of time? If I am remembering correctly? You fought your way back to be the maestro shredder you ARE today and you CAN do it again!
I had a close friend that had a heart attack. He was a fellow guitarist musician that taught me A LOT about theory. It took him a little while but he is back at it stronger than ever. I think as human beings sometimes we don't really know the strength of spirit we have until a catastrophic event happens! Sometimes we get so wrapped up in trying to just get better during these times that it is hard to see progress and that can be very frustrating. Trust me everyone on this site knows that you ARE a survivor and a fighter. Lean on your family and friends during this time and believe us when we tell you YOU WILL BE BACK STRONGER THAN EVER!

Just as bad as the physical injury, is the financial injury. This can lead to damage that is hidden in the mind. Do not let it destroy any positive thinking.

Kerry just keep the faith and this will all pass. It just is a plain big BEEYOTCH, as you would say.

Prayers for you and even more prayers your great family. This is the kind of thing that pushes every one hard.

I'm not even going to say get better,,, oh yes I will,,,, GET BETTER. I'm going to need an opening band when I play the new Paramount theater in Huntington next year. That would be an honor to have you there.

You got my # if you need to yell at someone.

Kerry

When we are weakest, the Lord is strongest.

I don't pretend to know why things happen. But they do and it sucks truly. I hope that pain gets under control soonest.

I was enjoying your excitement about your new outfit and feel lousy knowing you have to deal with the disappointment of putting that on hold. But you have all your Bandmix pals praying for you and wishing you the very best and I include myself in that number.

Don't know if this helps or not but Dave Mustaine (Megadeth) lost the use of his fretting arm from some bizarre nerve condition - quacks told him he'd never play again. One year later he reformed Megadeth and went on tour.

God bless
Talbot

Hey Crip,
Best wishes for a speedy recovery. Prayers sent. I've been through a few black nights like the one you are in now and I appreciate how truly difficult it can be. Hang in there because it will get better.

I'll leave you with a couple quick vids of another gifted shredder who suffered a debilitating injury and came back, re-invented his playing style and rocked the world. Perhaps it will entertain, inspire, and bring a glimmer of hope you can hold on to.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fzz6fAdF ... re=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LoIJ4W7k ... re=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=abTCjBo8 ... re=related

What I took for granted is now a tedious task. All those hours of practicing and learning everyday went right down the drain as I can't even flip open my guitar cases let alone pick it up. I can't lift what even a child should be able to lift and the pain is 24/7 non stop agitating! I try and do the exercises that I'm instructed to do every day but it still doesn't help the strength or alleviate the pain. I feel helpless and all seems hopeless as I'm not seeing any "silver lining". All I do is lay here doping myself up and watching my world just wither away......

.....all because this one gentleman, who was in such a hurry to make it to the other side of my road which I was just casually cruising on, forgot to look into oncoming traffic and destroyed my passions and dreams forever. I'm trying sooo hard to ask the Lord to help me to forgive him!

Hey Bro,

It took me a year to stop walking like Boris Karloff after I suffered a minor stroke. The neurological damage left a mark , so to speak. However I was determined to get through it and for the first three months, I was sort of in a f**ked up state. But I started to walk around the block, then two blocks...then the neighborhood, now I'm like 98% normal. The most painful part of it for me was the embarrassment I felt walking down the street like I was some retarded crippled old man... Now..when i walk down the street I just look like a crippled old man...

The first couple of months are always the shittiest... But I happen to believe you got an extraordinary fighting spirit...That's the diff , friend... and becuase of that, you're gonna get through it...Your biggest challenge will be "patience' But if you just hold on, you will get back your skill, intact...and with it some refreshed perspective (Might even do it better than ever before!

As for the forgiveness... A friend told me once that if I ever wanted to know the best form of detox, it was to forgive. (Dumps all the poison out of us...expedites the healing) . Consider...that guy did not wake up with any intention to bring harm on some one els...But he got lazy and therefore negligent. Youre gonna heal, but he's gotta live with the history of his complacency the rest of his days... He's gonna need forgiveness. BTW it only right that he step up and pay the bill ...To that end the lawyers can handle that... He can and should provide reconciliation...Either way, forgive. He's the smaller guy between the two of you.

crip2nite , listened to your tunes & watched your videos & just wanted to tell you you have an awesome talent . and that 90% of that talent comes from your head not your shoulder , ive seen lots of guys come back, give yourself time , dont pile a mountain of frustration on top of everything else that your battling. You will heal up and be back just not as fast as youd like. hope im not out of line ive been follow the thread & wanted to give you some encouragemnt

this guy came back from carpel tunnel surgery on both wrists http://www.expose.org/GaryGreen/gary_green_complete.htm

Thanx sooo much for kickin' in and giving me advice and hope ( BTW, I also came back from carpal tunnel surgery on both wrists before I put out any vids and played a thousand clubs in the last 5 years so I know what it's like beating the odds )


What I've got going on here is most physicians trying to be as honest as possible to me as far as my future is concerned.... They're pretty sure I'm not gonna be able to shred the way I have in the past anymore... ... Just trying to be as honest as possible and not get the hopes up of someone who's complete arm from shoulder to elbow has been completely crushed almost to what crushed ice looks like! It's amazing trying to get my brain to actually move my elbow and shoulder to "flap like a wing" or raise it anywhere near halfway above my head or coordinate itself with the healthy tissue below the elbow (fingers, hand, wrists, forearm, etc,,,)


Gonna be tough replicating: Yngwie, Slash, Zak, Rhoades, etc..)

I LOVE TO WAIL MY ASS OFF ON STAGE..and won't get up there if I can't play like I've been playing!

concentrate on healing up first, & then see where you can take it , docs dont know everything

concentrate on healing up first, & then see where you can take it , docs dont know everything

Exactly... First things first...