...& I'm getting an attitude...like I don't even f*cking care anymore...
SMILE - it's the safest way to spread your cheeks!
Come on, Philby, I know it's tough, but we gotta roll with the punches.
Big hugs!
Chaeya
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Chaeya said BIG HUGS, take em while you gottem.
Thats coming from a pretty special lady.
You going through a ruff patch, so I'll say the same thing,,, BIG HUGS.
Thats coming from a pretty special lady.
You going through a ruff patch, so I'll say the same thing,,, BIG HUGS.
Don't argue with a stupid person. They will pull you down to their level... And beat you with experience..."Samuel Langhorne Clemens"
I told a friend of mine I was depressed. He responded, "Well yeah!"
That's the default I think sometimes.
Trust in God, trust in your music. Wait it out.
best
talbot
That's the default I think sometimes.
Trust in God, trust in your music. Wait it out.
best
talbot
#148629 by jimmydanger
Tue Jun 21, 2011 12:17 pm
Tue Jun 21, 2011 12:17 pm
I was married for nearly 23 years. When my marriage ended I thought my life was over but guess what: it wasn't. Things change, that's the ONLY constant in life.
#148631 by Stringdancer
Tue Jun 21, 2011 12:36 pm
Tue Jun 21, 2011 12:36 pm
I know you don't see or feel it now but you're about to reinvent yourself at the end of the process a new you will emerge and you are going to like the change.. the trick is to view this difficult transitional period not as a set back but as an opportunity to better things.
Hang in there and you'll be alright.
Hang in there and you'll be alright.
OK... So I don't know anyone here and this is my first post, but this is something I have a great deal of experience with! (I've been married 4 times! My second died... Far worse than a divorce.)
My first divorce really broke me up. It was one of those, wife runs off with a friend, divorces. (Had a 9 month old son too.) At the time, I would have forgiven everything, nearly 40 years later, I'm glad she didn't cave, as the woman is still a whiney pain in the butt. Vindictive and controlling. The guy who has her now deserves her. Oh, we still talk a bit, but she's just so depressing. She hasn't figured out that life is what YOU make it. She still expects happiness to fall into her lap.
My last divorce was more than a HUGE sigh of relief! Until I was out, I never realized how oppressed I was. 20 years with the bitch of the universe... I call it my Rip VanWinkle years. Except I wasn't just asleep, I was living a nightmare. (The death of my second wife left me depressed and not all that functional. My third wife keep me in that state so she could have control.) I woke up one day and realized that I just didn't love her and couldn't continue down that path.
Just don't go wasting your efforts with emotional dead ends. I don't know your situation, but I do know that in mine, while I had every reason to hate the woman, I realized that hate takes effort. Not only that, you have to CARE to hate! The opposite of love is indifference and that's where I settled. When you can drop all the emotional baggage and consider that the most important thing out there is you, then placing importance elsewhere becomes easy. It may sound selfish, but if you're not healthy, physically and emotionally, putting yourself first is the most important thing you can do. When you are healthy, putting yourself first allows you to give everything you have to something or someone else.
Good luck. It will all work out. It may have taken me 4 shots, but I finally found the perfect woman. We travel the paths we travel for a reason. If we're paying attention along the way, we discover what's most important to us.
My first divorce really broke me up. It was one of those, wife runs off with a friend, divorces. (Had a 9 month old son too.) At the time, I would have forgiven everything, nearly 40 years later, I'm glad she didn't cave, as the woman is still a whiney pain in the butt. Vindictive and controlling. The guy who has her now deserves her. Oh, we still talk a bit, but she's just so depressing. She hasn't figured out that life is what YOU make it. She still expects happiness to fall into her lap.
My last divorce was more than a HUGE sigh of relief! Until I was out, I never realized how oppressed I was. 20 years with the bitch of the universe... I call it my Rip VanWinkle years. Except I wasn't just asleep, I was living a nightmare. (The death of my second wife left me depressed and not all that functional. My third wife keep me in that state so she could have control.) I woke up one day and realized that I just didn't love her and couldn't continue down that path.
Just don't go wasting your efforts with emotional dead ends. I don't know your situation, but I do know that in mine, while I had every reason to hate the woman, I realized that hate takes effort. Not only that, you have to CARE to hate! The opposite of love is indifference and that's where I settled. When you can drop all the emotional baggage and consider that the most important thing out there is you, then placing importance elsewhere becomes easy. It may sound selfish, but if you're not healthy, physically and emotionally, putting yourself first is the most important thing you can do. When you are healthy, putting yourself first allows you to give everything you have to something or someone else.
Good luck. It will all work out. It may have taken me 4 shots, but I finally found the perfect woman. We travel the paths we travel for a reason. If we're paying attention along the way, we discover what's most important to us.
You can't lick air!
Phil there is a lot that you are walking away from, namely blindness. You can't see the good in front of you because you are looking behind you. Keep walking past that wall of dread. Allow yourself to get far enough away that you can see what lies ahead. My first marriage was horrilbe except for the three wonderful kids that came out of it. THe problem with that divorce is that my husband could not let me go and he turned both our lives into a nightmare. Don't allow your life to become a nightmare. You're just like we are and yes you can get through this. 
Shoot Klug I didn't know you went through that kind of hell also.
Sorry I'm not qualified to make any comments on this post.
Just that sometimes life aint fun.
Positive comments are very encouraging, are they not?
Sorry I'm not qualified to make any comments on this post.
Just that sometimes life aint fun.
Positive comments are very encouraging, are they not?
Don't argue with a stupid person. They will pull you down to their level... And beat you with experience..."Samuel Langhorne Clemens"
#148696 by Stringdancer
Wed Jun 22, 2011 12:44 am
Wed Jun 22, 2011 12:44 am
KLUGMO wrote:Jimmys right, and I beat him by 8 months. 8 months more
stuburn.[/b]
Those 8 months made you a better singer.
#148813 by Crunchysoundbite
Fri Jun 24, 2011 1:08 am
Fri Jun 24, 2011 1:08 am
I went to the library the other day. I asked the librarian "where's the self help section". She said "Kinda defeats the purpose, don't it?" 
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