Going back to the subject at hand - I notice a certain turn of phrase that makes me ponder.
"The musician I hired."
Look, a band is a collective effort. Just because one person starts it up, doesn't mean that that person runs it all. That may be a part of the problem or not, but it just struck me to comment.
We all have our reasons for wanting to work together in a band. the only way it cna possibly work, is when those needs are met, for each individual. However, when one person's needs take control, at the expense of others, it will fall apart, & sometimes violently.
Whenever possible, in such a tight group situation, I find that it's best to seek out a consensus. When everyone agrees to the material, the material gets played, gets rehearsed, gets presented well. When one person is at odds with the band, there should be a discussion as to what is going on, & a compromise must be met, or someone must leave the unit.
Each member also must be willing to compromise on things, as well. It's becoming more difficult to do that these days, for some reason, but when 3 out of 4 really think a song moevs the audience, the 4th guy has to put his objections aside for the good of all, until it's proven that the song doesn't really work.
Everyone in the unit must have a role to play, as well, that includes more than simply showing up on time & doing the gig. One or two og you may be great at maintenance of the equipment. There may be a sound wizard, or a great salesman that always gets the gigs. Or the grunt guy who hauls & sets up. You should always strive to appreciate the contributions, & never hold one person's in higher esteem over another. The grunt is as important as the salesman, or the songwriter, or the singer.
That's one of the toughest balancing acts you will ever face - personal egos. Ppl often fear they are being taken advantage of, or being taken for granted, & not appreciated. Kind words & encouragement & simple "thank you's" solve more of these inner turmoils than you may ever imagine, even as YOU are the one with the ego problems, who thinks he is being used. You have to set those things aside for the good of all, just as you would in a marriage. There are always times when one guy is gonna have it tougher than the rest, & the rest must pull together to heop when this occurs, to prove that you all think he's worth the extra effort, & to let him know you care.
And when one guy isn't pulling his weight, FIRST you need to find out why, & help if you can, & if he really needs it. If it turns out to be an attitude thing, then he needs to be told, & encouraged to do better, without adding the guilt trips or ultimatums.
It's like this in every area of your life, when dealing with ppl
"The musician I hired."
Look, a band is a collective effort. Just because one person starts it up, doesn't mean that that person runs it all. That may be a part of the problem or not, but it just struck me to comment.
We all have our reasons for wanting to work together in a band. the only way it cna possibly work, is when those needs are met, for each individual. However, when one person's needs take control, at the expense of others, it will fall apart, & sometimes violently.
Whenever possible, in such a tight group situation, I find that it's best to seek out a consensus. When everyone agrees to the material, the material gets played, gets rehearsed, gets presented well. When one person is at odds with the band, there should be a discussion as to what is going on, & a compromise must be met, or someone must leave the unit.
Each member also must be willing to compromise on things, as well. It's becoming more difficult to do that these days, for some reason, but when 3 out of 4 really think a song moevs the audience, the 4th guy has to put his objections aside for the good of all, until it's proven that the song doesn't really work.
Everyone in the unit must have a role to play, as well, that includes more than simply showing up on time & doing the gig. One or two og you may be great at maintenance of the equipment. There may be a sound wizard, or a great salesman that always gets the gigs. Or the grunt guy who hauls & sets up. You should always strive to appreciate the contributions, & never hold one person's in higher esteem over another. The grunt is as important as the salesman, or the songwriter, or the singer.
That's one of the toughest balancing acts you will ever face - personal egos. Ppl often fear they are being taken advantage of, or being taken for granted, & not appreciated. Kind words & encouragement & simple "thank you's" solve more of these inner turmoils than you may ever imagine, even as YOU are the one with the ego problems, who thinks he is being used. You have to set those things aside for the good of all, just as you would in a marriage. There are always times when one guy is gonna have it tougher than the rest, & the rest must pull together to heop when this occurs, to prove that you all think he's worth the extra effort, & to let him know you care.
And when one guy isn't pulling his weight, FIRST you need to find out why, & help if you can, & if he really needs it. If it turns out to be an attitude thing, then he needs to be told, & encouraged to do better, without adding the guilt trips or ultimatums.
It's like this in every area of your life, when dealing with ppl
SMILE - it's the safest way to spread your cheeks!
. Seriously you going through a WALL!!! sounds like something you'd get for shagging someones girlfriend !! Or mother 
