General Music Chat

Dear Mike,
You are obviously very intelligent and proficient with the internet.
You are artistic and sometimes humorus. It is hard for me to
believe that you came here to disrupt the site and drive people
away. You obviously dont care if people leave because of your
actions. You obviously don't care if people you come in contact
with here like you or not.

So the purpose of your actions is at question or rather the cause.
I must admit it screams FUked up childhood. Anyone who doesn't
care what other people think of them is going to have a long
troublesome life. Anyone who so obviously seeks attention
with negative action will also hit a lot of bumps on the road of life.
Maybe it's a maturity issue.

It is apparent to me that you have the ingredients within you
that it will take to end up a decent person. But equally you have
all the potential for a disaster in life too. I will pray that you figure
it out some day and not hurt others along the way towards that end.

Good Luck
A Fellow Human Being
KLUGMO

Klugmo,
You seem like one of the few decent people here.

A f**k up childhood? You could say that. I posted a list of some of the sh*t I deal with and the reply was basically just calling me an asshole and to suck it up. After trying to please people gets nowhere, the only sane reaction is just, "f**k 'em."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HIRNKkrVW5M

I don't say much in person. Very withdrawn. This is about as "social" as I get. Of course, my social skills are extremely underdeveloped.
You said I amuse myself. Well, I've had practice. I'm not particularly TRYING to get attention (beyond seeking bandmates). But, it happens. If people want to be supportive, cool, if not...don't go away mad, just go away.

I am a decent person. But, I usually take time to get to know.

I believe Mike that communicating on the web can be therapy of sorts. Despite the vitriole hurled your way some good might actually come of all this...

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We all have childhoods. Some bad, some better. The lubricant of
lfe is your interaction with others. It is a constant that is unavoidable.
You just need some practice.

Also learn to get a handle on that urge to react and f**k with people.
Channel it in another direction. If you pick the right direction, it
could payoff bigtime.

Heres an exercize for you: Have your 3 closest friends stand in
front of you just out of reach. One at a time have them point there
finger at you and 5 times in a row with meaning they tell you.
F//K YOU 5 times. Then all 3 at once.
YOU say nothing and when it's over, just smile and say Thank you.
This will help you develope an automatic control and discourage
the compulsive defence you may have that doesn't help.

Heres an exercize for you: Have your 3 closest friends stand in
front of you just out of reach. One at a time have them point there
finger at you and 5 times in a row with meaning they tell you.
F//K YOU 5 times. Then all 3 at once.
YOU say nothing and when it's over, just smile and say Thank you.
This will help you develope an automatic control and discourage
the compulsive defence you may have that doesn't help.

I don't have three friends. Now what?

Tell yourself in the mirror.

That, I could easily believe...so the next exercise would be a self-assessment to discover WHY that is...& to list out the corrective measures necessary to fix the problem...THEN, to act on it accordingly.

I think klugmo's post was well written and accurate.

Nobody needs to tell you why you don't have friends.
You know better than anyone.

You're an ash hole sometimes and you cant help it.
We all are. Just some more often and with a sharper edge.

You folks will NEVER hear from me again on this site! I have had enough! of this LIBERAL BUNCH OF DUMB PHUCKS! I just recently paid up on this site! These COCK SUCKS have taken my money and apparently they prefer SHEAPLE so good night and may God Bless! One last thing I just found out I am gonna be a grandpa my one and only daughter is pregnant!

And May I SAY TO YOU BANDMIX YOU SUCK!

Good luck to you and your musical endeavors J-Haley! Stay positive man!

I too am get tired of MikeN filling up threads with a bunch of crap .... you could tone it down Mike ....

"Klugmo,
You seem like one of the few decent people here"

A completely incorrect judgement, there, Mike. ALL of us, from Glen to Jeff Haley to Klugmo to whoever, is a decent individual. Just because someone disagrees with you, or takes offense at the things you say & do (which even YOU should be able to admit, are a little more extreme than most other ppl in here), doesn't mean that he is not a decent person. Ppl disagree all the time. Ppl jump to conclusions all the time. Sometimes ppl even take exception to innocently worded sentences, & blow up at someone. That doesn't mean that they are a bad person, or too judgemental, or puritanical, or self-righteous assholes.

We're PEOPLE, Mike. We all don't think alike. We all have a different perspective on ANY given subjsct, & the chances of someone agreeing with you an any given subject are astronomical.

It's the developed person, the mature adult, the enlightened one, who can see this, & ACCEPT the differences in others, without feeling personally attacked. Hey, any one of us could just be having a bad day, or a senior moment, & miss your point & blow up atcha. That doesn't make us less worthy of your regard or respect, or even, dare I say it - your compassion.

You seem to have a lot of compassion for yourself. You allow things in yourself that you won't in others, because you have a "condition." You haven't begun to consider that everyone you meet, every single one of us, has at least one "condition" of our own to deal with. Some of us are dealing with it better than others. Compassion is called for, far more than lashing out. (I, too, have this problem, at times, so I know of what I speak.) More often than not, the stick is NOT called for, but it seems to be your tool of choice, no matter the social situation. There are other tools out there. Experiment with them, & see if they don't improve your lot in dealing with others.

You will meet hundreds of ppl less developed than you, less informed, even less emotionally secure, if you can believe that. It's your job, as a human being, to learn to relate to each of us in a unique fashion, to determine OUR needs, & to adjust your behavior so as not to offend, as long as things aren't being forced upon you. Look up your very first 10 posts, & see if you came close to doing any of that, & then make a determination of whether or not you have truly been unjustly treated by anyone.

You're an ash hole sometimes and you cant help it.
We all are. Just some more often and with a sharper edge.[/b]

I say he can help it. I say we all can help it.