General Music Chat

The best line you will see is looking for either and honest guy or a drama free guy, trust me if you see either of those two lines in what they are looking for, RUN TO THE HILLS. These types all you will get is drama, or jealousy issues out of this world!

They want a drama-free guy JW because they provide all the drama already

I joined AOL and found the chat rooms many years ago. Got to know some great people. The chat rooms, you could say, were reminisent of.....lets say ham radios back in the day. You have to be very observant and pay attention. There are wackos out there. I had my share of idiots hitting on me.

Longish story a little shorter. I met my husband thru those same chat rooms. We spent a lot of time talking in the chat rooms and we started out as friends first.

We have been together for 14 years now, married for 10 of those years. One very important thing that I think made the difference. We didn't pretend to be something we weren't. Not all of these "connections" worked. But I do know of a couple of them that have.

The chat rooms are a little/lot different from dating sites. I can't even begin to talk about those since I have no experience with them. At the time that I was on AOL, I really was not looking for a man. Lord knows I didn't need that headache ROFL. I was just on AOL for the entertainment of just having fun chatting with others.

I guess I just got lucky

Robin, my experience is very similar to your except I met my husband through a personal ad. I established rules when I decided to take this route. We were both divorced and was not interested in games but at the same time I was not interested in a long term relationship unless it became one...if that makes any sense. I had rules established and with those rules, I was able to kick anyone to the curb who needed to be kicked. I also mae some good friends. For example the guy that took the pictures at our wedding was an optometrist that I dated thru a personal ad. We never became serious but became good friends. He, in turn married someone else that he met through a personal ad. I played the flute in their wedding.

Well anyway, my husband and I have been together 18 years and married 16 of those years. Our families are very close. My mom and his aunt especially developed a close friendship and they died within a month of each other. and he walked his step-daughter ( my daughter from my first marriage ) down the aisle at her wedding. He is very protective of all of the kids. I don't see much difference in online dating. The biggest rule to establish when you date this way is "DON"T BE STOOOOPID". Stick to that rule and you should be okay.

LOL Colors!

I guess I should share this. I got into online dating sites not to get dates but as a band marketing tool. Think about if you ever fool with one of these it asks questions about if you like certain genres of music, if you like clubbing, of course location and age. SO I got the not so brilliant idea to use those sites to draw females to gigs. Sounds great on paper til one night in Jackson when around a dozen gals showed up all thinking I was thier date. The bad thing is playing in a band you are a sitting duck. You got to play your show, and cant just run and hide. It made for a very long uncomfortable night, Our singer saw all this and picked up on it and says all right what have you done now.

I did that for about 6 monthes and we actually got some new fans out of it. But from what I saw most of these chicks were just crazy, and not in the good, dont want to take them home to meet the folks way either.

The best line you will see is looking for either and honest guy or a drama free guy, trust me if you see either of those two lines in what they are looking for, RUN TO THE HILLS. These types all you will get is drama, or jealousy issues out of this world!

That is a really shady story!

Funny how you mentioned the no drama line. That's EXACTLY what that crazy nurse put in her profile...right at the bottom of the page! I'm so glad she gave away her whackness so I could catch it on time.

And to the few people on here who did meet someone special online: you got lucky! Almost Lottery lucky!

And to the few people on here who did meet someone special online: you got lucky! Almost Lottery lucky!

Let me tell you... If you find that special someone, you are lottery lucky anyway...


If you would have showed me a picture of my fiance a year ago, described her in detail to me and said, "Colors, you're going to be engaged to this bombshell next spring" I would have totally not believed you...


Fate is a funny thing.

Hmmmm,

Two ugly chicks on line are better than one in the house.

Hmmmm,

Two ugly chicks on line are better than one in the house.

Not if the one in the house is cooking your meals and giving you zex.

What the hell is zex?

What the hell is zex?

Well, change the z to an s and it will become self explanatory.

This also depends. It's not too much fun if you're always the one doing all the work.

Hmmmm,

Two ugly chicks on line are better than one in the house.

Not if the one in the house is cooking your meals and giving you zex.

I agree with Slacker. I was married once, she became ugly.

Now, I could care less if an ugly chick cooked my meals because having sex with her would ruin my appetite.

I would be better off masterbating and heating up leftovers, or making a sandwich...haha!

Is that too much information?

Thats way too much info!

Im glad some people have been successful meeting people online as far as dating. I personally feel its best to meet someone in person and really get to know them, of course my track record aint too good just like music so what to heck do I know.

As was said before dont be stupid!

K, I didnt think I was shady in my approach, cause when I got in touch with gals on the sites I told them I was in a band and that there were ussually lots of single guys at the gig and it might be a good place for them to meet someone. A few of them thought I meant me, LOL

It was just a different approach to marketing the band, I mean think about it if you could get people hooked up at your gigs they would always have fond memories of your band. Our band has a couple that always tells us they concieved their first child in the parking lot at one of our gigs 15 yrs ago.

Hmmmmmm
If its getting bums on seats that counts when gigging to my mind all options are open as are all channels. I did that too JW some years back with some success, I'll do it again too.

As regards what people want from you? (Thread title and subject). I think everyone has some baggage from clattering through life, even seemingly 100% optimists. The important thing is that you go in with an open mind and be prepared to give a little. No different from normal real world life, few can do it however.

Thats way too much info!

Im glad some people have been successful meeting people online as far as dating. I personally feel its best to meet someone in person and really get to know them, of course my track record aint too good just like music so what to heck do I know.

This is what I know JW:

Everyone I've ever dated - except my current fiance - I've met in real life first. I met them, was initially attracted based on the typical physical responses, started dating them, getting to know their personality SECOND, and then got burned...


My fiance - a totally different story. Her sister introduced us and she lives in a different country in a different part of the world. We had to get to know each other over telephone/Skype/e-mail/letters before we met in person. So basically, we forged our connection and got to know each other's personalities long before the physical connection and the hormones entered the equation.

When we finally did meet in person? Supernova...


Best relationship I've ever been in - by MILES. It's not even close.


I think there is definitely something to be said for getting to know someone's personality before you meet them. The trouble here is - will they reveal their true self to you during that process? Or will they misrepresent themselves? This is the problem that I, and some of my friends, have ran into in the past. Some people are simply not true people, and they will misrepresent themselves in order to "catch" a bride or groom. Once married, they reveal their true colors. And that's a bad thing.

I feel lucky. My fiance and myself are true people - we just don't know any other way to be. So it makes it a lot easier to get to know them and figure out if you're a match.

Hmmmm,

Two ugly chicks on line are better than one in the house.

Not if the one in the house is cooking your meals and giving you zex.

I agree with Slacker. I was married once, she became ugly.

Now, I could care less if an ugly chick cooked my meals because having sex with her would ruin my appetite.

I would be better off masterbating and heating up leftovers, or making a sandwich...haha!

Is that too much information?

Yeah.

Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes down to the bone.