KLUGMO wrote:Absolutely not. The State should not rob me of opportunity to teach and explain why it is wrong. Thats the job. Raising and teaching and catching them doing things wrong. The State should not be baby sitting the parents. Parents should parent.
Is the state being a "parent", when they place restrictions on DRIVER'S LICENSES too? What about CIGARETTES and ALCOHOL? STRIP CLUBS?
How about this scenario...
Your 13 year old son, slips out of the house at night with friends, and takes your car... he has a driver's license, since there are no restrictions on that for age, gets a speeding ticket, but the offficer sends him on his way after ticketing him... he then goes to the drug store and gets a few packs of cigarettes (no restrictions) and a bunch of ONE DOLLAR BILLS. Next stop is the liquor store, where he buys plenty of alcohol for the night, and starts srinking on the way to the next location!
He drives to the strip club next, with his buddies, and they get lap dances all night, and also get RIP ROARIN' DRUNK (no restrictions on alcohol purchases). Now when he finally runs out of money, he decides he better head home. But driving drunk, he ends up plowing HEAD FIRST into a Drunk Driving Road Block he sees too late, killing himself, and all the other kids in the car, as well as a few cops, in the process.
I know you would have heartily taken your chance to be a good parent in this situation, but the problem with that is...
HE'S DEAD NOW!
With restrictions, some opportunities to end this evening earlier:
1) No driver's license at 13 - He may not take the risk.
2) Pulled over for speeding - He would have been safely arrested.
3) Illegal attempt to purchase cigarettes, someone could be alerted.
4) Illegal attempt to purchase alcohol, someone could be alerted.
5) Tries to enter strip club illegally, someone could be alerted, and at least no alcohol purchased.
In my scenario, there were MANY opportunities to prevent this night, from ending in complete tragedy! Without restrictions, there is only your one chance, of waking up and hearing him, before he snuck out!
What if someone else watches your kid, who does not share your values?
I was pretty reliable about following my family's values, but many, if not most kids, are not so disciplined. I pushed boundaries, like all kids do. Without some restrictions, perhaps I would have pushed them further.
So, once again, to clarify... Someone's 10 year old son should be allowed to walk into a XXX Movie store or theater, and pay for a ticket or buy a movie to take home, just like any of the adults there? You don't mind someone's kid, sitting in a theater next to a bunch of horny adults, watching porn, and no restrictions on age limits to be there?
If you believe that, you are a WORTHLESS EXCUSE for a father.