Aiki, ol' buddy, I read your post last night and had to laugh-cuz your absolutely correct! I've been thinking about that very situation a lot lately.
In nearly 20 years of playing with bands (most of them in the same area), I don't really want to mess with it anymore. Probably 80% of the musicians (and I use that term loosely) I have played with couldn't keep up with me. Period.
I don't say that to be arrogant, it's just true. You wouldn't believe how many times I've played walking bass lines and felt like I was playing lead...ridiculous. If I played at the their level, I'd do nothing but 8th note roots for eternity.
I was jamming with my bro-in-law yesterday (whom I've played with for several years now). I asked him to play a C# chord...and he looked at me like I was stupid (yeah, I get that a lot)! I asked him to tell me how I needed to communicate that to him, and he told me to "put his fingers in the right place FOR HIM!!"
In the rare event that I did get to play with a knowledgeable musician, then they have been stuck in one style or stuck on themselves or something-and the usual stance in those situations was more or less for me to sit in the back and shut up...
The truth of the matter is that, in those twenty years, I can count the number of experiences with "real" musicians on one hand (probably).
*I know my instrument.
*I love my instrument.
*I've played about any kind of music you can imagine.
*I know tons of covers and have forgotten more original material than most people come up with in their lifetimes.
*I've played many live performances and I am pretty well versed in the studio, too.
*I have a comprehensive understanding of the different aspects of this business (marketing, performance, etc.). I know it's not just about showing up and playing G C D.
*I have a clean driving record (I just thought I'd throw that in there).
The point of all this? It seems like once a month someone comes on here and regurgitates the same old complaint:
"I can't find a bass player."
You want one? Fine. I'll do it. And when you waste my time, I'll kill you (in my mind).
***DISCLAIMER*** I've had too much Red Bull today. Sorry for the rant.