#43677 by Craig Maxim
Tue Oct 14, 2008 12:02 am
Tue Oct 14, 2008 12:02 am
You have to decide...
What are you in this for really?
As you said, you started your own project for fun. It is closer to your heart and you have more invested in it, and according to your reports, things are going nicely for you guys.
But now, you are considering something for money as the primary motivation, because you don't like their set list very much and it seems you are already conditioning yourself that you are not going to enjoy this too much.
That's a sucky place to be in bro.
Does your family need the money that desperately? Cause you are making a big trade off, that even you, don't seem very thrilled about.
If someone is in this for a career. They really believe they can go somewhere and are willing to make the necessary commitments and sacrifices, then sometimes you have to make difficult decisions, that I believe are beyond "loyalty" to friends. If they are really your true friends, then they would not want to hold you back from a better opportunity. There are some guys in my band which would be VERY difficult to replace, but if they had a HUGE opportunity for advancing their personal careers, I would support them in that and wish them the very best.
Key words: "Better Opportunity"
How much better is this opportunity?
Doesn't sound that much better to me, because mainly the other band is more popular and gigging more.
What stops Panik from reaching that level? Maybe a little more promotion and another 6 months or so, you could be wiping the floor with that new band?
You have more pull in your own project. What if this other band trades you out next? You didn't say if the other dude is still in the other band or not. That is not the best situation, that they are talking to you behind his back, if so. What stops them from doing the same to you? Will you then have to beg for your place back IN YOUR OWN project?
That would suck.
You are giving up your weekends for this. It had better be a HUGELY promising future for that, or at least alot of fun, so you don't feel that EVERYTHING in your life is only work. That will drain you pretty quickly.
I have a feeling that YOU are the most serious member of Panik, and that probably as band leader, you are frustrated by that from time to time, and this new band is showing they value you alot, and that feels good, when your own band may have to be prodded occasionally to measure up, practice and gig wise.
If so, that alone would make the new project appealing "Hey, these other guys are serious and dedicated and receiving the rewards of that, whereas some of my guys are hobbyists, and I have to work hard sometimes just to keep them all together."
You did mention awhile back, if I remember, that you were ready to throw in the towel once in awhile, cause some of your band was flaking out, not making every gig, etc...
That's stressful.
But if it is only a single member or two, it is always possible they get replaced with more dedicated musicians, if that's the case. It's your project, so you are in a prime position to decide that and have a say about it.
But in the new band, you are the newcomer. You can't be sure how secure that position is, until you have been with them awhile and seen that the personalities work well with you.
I think it is a big decision.
And it seems like a big risk for what may be a nominal reward.
To me, the only way you should try this out, is if you can balance both projects for awhile and see how it feels. But you should then be above board, that you are sitting in with another band. Your band may not like that, but who knows, maybe that wakes some of them up, and you guys hit the floor running with a new determination, and end up being more popular than this other band in 6 months time?
There is nothing wrong with making a decision that is best for YOUR CAREER personally. Just be SURE that it is... BEST for your career.
Is this other band really going to improve your career greatly?
Sounds to me like their level is within reach of your own band. You just need to get your guys all on board with you, or find musicians that can measure up. Then you are playing the music you want to play, getting paid, and have the personal satisfaction of seeing that something YOU started from the ground up, is succeeding and doing quite well at that.
Good luck brother!
What are you in this for really?
As you said, you started your own project for fun. It is closer to your heart and you have more invested in it, and according to your reports, things are going nicely for you guys.
But now, you are considering something for money as the primary motivation, because you don't like their set list very much and it seems you are already conditioning yourself that you are not going to enjoy this too much.
That's a sucky place to be in bro.
Does your family need the money that desperately? Cause you are making a big trade off, that even you, don't seem very thrilled about.
If someone is in this for a career. They really believe they can go somewhere and are willing to make the necessary commitments and sacrifices, then sometimes you have to make difficult decisions, that I believe are beyond "loyalty" to friends. If they are really your true friends, then they would not want to hold you back from a better opportunity. There are some guys in my band which would be VERY difficult to replace, but if they had a HUGE opportunity for advancing their personal careers, I would support them in that and wish them the very best.
Key words: "Better Opportunity"
How much better is this opportunity?
Doesn't sound that much better to me, because mainly the other band is more popular and gigging more.
What stops Panik from reaching that level? Maybe a little more promotion and another 6 months or so, you could be wiping the floor with that new band?
You have more pull in your own project. What if this other band trades you out next? You didn't say if the other dude is still in the other band or not. That is not the best situation, that they are talking to you behind his back, if so. What stops them from doing the same to you? Will you then have to beg for your place back IN YOUR OWN project?
That would suck.
You are giving up your weekends for this. It had better be a HUGELY promising future for that, or at least alot of fun, so you don't feel that EVERYTHING in your life is only work. That will drain you pretty quickly.
I have a feeling that YOU are the most serious member of Panik, and that probably as band leader, you are frustrated by that from time to time, and this new band is showing they value you alot, and that feels good, when your own band may have to be prodded occasionally to measure up, practice and gig wise.
If so, that alone would make the new project appealing "Hey, these other guys are serious and dedicated and receiving the rewards of that, whereas some of my guys are hobbyists, and I have to work hard sometimes just to keep them all together."
You did mention awhile back, if I remember, that you were ready to throw in the towel once in awhile, cause some of your band was flaking out, not making every gig, etc...
That's stressful.
But if it is only a single member or two, it is always possible they get replaced with more dedicated musicians, if that's the case. It's your project, so you are in a prime position to decide that and have a say about it.
But in the new band, you are the newcomer. You can't be sure how secure that position is, until you have been with them awhile and seen that the personalities work well with you.
I think it is a big decision.
And it seems like a big risk for what may be a nominal reward.
To me, the only way you should try this out, is if you can balance both projects for awhile and see how it feels. But you should then be above board, that you are sitting in with another band. Your band may not like that, but who knows, maybe that wakes some of them up, and you guys hit the floor running with a new determination, and end up being more popular than this other band in 6 months time?
There is nothing wrong with making a decision that is best for YOUR CAREER personally. Just be SURE that it is... BEST for your career.
Is this other band really going to improve your career greatly?
Sounds to me like their level is within reach of your own band. You just need to get your guys all on board with you, or find musicians that can measure up. Then you are playing the music you want to play, getting paid, and have the personal satisfaction of seeing that something YOU started from the ground up, is succeeding and doing quite well at that.
Good luck brother!
Yikes.... I'm already super bored playing these tunes and I haven't even auditioned yet 
I've figured our 14 of the most boring freakin' tunes ever: Purple Haze, Born to be Wild, La Grange, Sunshine of Your Love, War Pigs, Rock & Roll, etc... I swear... I actually fell asleep in mid tune and my wife and kids woke me up laughing their asses off! I had to go back to the Stevie Vai tune I was working on to wake up!
