#36001 by Shred9
Sun Jul 06, 2008 8:35 pm
Sun Jul 06, 2008 8:35 pm
Well I hate to have to bring this up, but you all are serious musicians as I myself am, so I'm hoping that you all can help me shed some light on an issue in my personal life that's really killing me inside. I'll try to make this as short as possible.
I've been REALLY busy with different projects lately especially the ones where people just want me to add some CRAZY leads and melodies to their work in different studios, but I still make all the time in the world for my wife and especially my son. Everytime I go to leave the house to go rehearse or to record somewhere my wife starts accusing me of cheating and saying that everything I do with music is just a waste of time (both of which are completely absurd). Then she reminds me of the fact that that's how we met in the first place. Now the marriage hasn't been good ever since I picked up an axe again after an 8-year break from the scene, but I still do everything that she likes to do together with her and my son; so in essence nothing has changed other than the fact that I'm writing and playing music again rather than racing Supercross and Motocross. She's really a mean-spirited person to start with so it's my bad for getting involved in the first place, but now there's a 5-year old boy thrown into the mix that I just won't ever let down. If she knows that I'm recording in my studio, she'll come out just to be a jerk and ruin the track as it's being recorded. I just built a new house and my son keeps telling me that he wants to "get away from the mean girl" and that if I leave, he "has to come with me." I can deal with losing the property and the house, but not my boy damnit and I know that the first thing that she'll try to take is all of my gear. I have to play because it's what makes me who and what I really am as a person in general. There's a TON more to this story, but I'm trying to keep it somewhat short and to the point. Being treated so horribly every day for absolutely no reason at all is killing me and my spirit to the point of feeling sick everytime I have to go back home. I'm at a loss as to what I should do at this point so I just keep taking the abuse so I can be with my son everyday and protect him and provide him with all the necessary tools needed for a decent life.
Has anyone else here been in a similar situation? If so, how was it remedied or wasn't it? If all I can take away from this terrible situation is my son and ALL of my gear, then so be it. I've only been married once and I can honestly say that I'll never do it again after all of this runs it's course. Do any of you have some helpful advice or guidance to offer? All of this stress is killing me!!!!!!!!!
I've been REALLY busy with different projects lately especially the ones where people just want me to add some CRAZY leads and melodies to their work in different studios, but I still make all the time in the world for my wife and especially my son. Everytime I go to leave the house to go rehearse or to record somewhere my wife starts accusing me of cheating and saying that everything I do with music is just a waste of time (both of which are completely absurd). Then she reminds me of the fact that that's how we met in the first place. Now the marriage hasn't been good ever since I picked up an axe again after an 8-year break from the scene, but I still do everything that she likes to do together with her and my son; so in essence nothing has changed other than the fact that I'm writing and playing music again rather than racing Supercross and Motocross. She's really a mean-spirited person to start with so it's my bad for getting involved in the first place, but now there's a 5-year old boy thrown into the mix that I just won't ever let down. If she knows that I'm recording in my studio, she'll come out just to be a jerk and ruin the track as it's being recorded. I just built a new house and my son keeps telling me that he wants to "get away from the mean girl" and that if I leave, he "has to come with me." I can deal with losing the property and the house, but not my boy damnit and I know that the first thing that she'll try to take is all of my gear. I have to play because it's what makes me who and what I really am as a person in general. There's a TON more to this story, but I'm trying to keep it somewhat short and to the point. Being treated so horribly every day for absolutely no reason at all is killing me and my spirit to the point of feeling sick everytime I have to go back home. I'm at a loss as to what I should do at this point so I just keep taking the abuse so I can be with my son everyday and protect him and provide him with all the necessary tools needed for a decent life.
Has anyone else here been in a similar situation? If so, how was it remedied or wasn't it? If all I can take away from this terrible situation is my son and ALL of my gear, then so be it. I've only been married once and I can honestly say that I'll never do it again after all of this runs it's course. Do any of you have some helpful advice or guidance to offer? All of this stress is killing me!!!!!!!!!