General Music Chat

"The peoploe on that site who DID show an interest in jamming with me or being my friend, I had to turn down. "

What I meant is that those people used me. The people I turned down either didn't have enough skill and knowledge of music, or they were guys who were into classic rock, heavy metal, or hard rock, or they were individuals who did a lot of heavy drinking, and already had plenty of friends to jam with, or they were guys who had way too many responsibiltieis like kids to take care of, or a girlfriend/wife, or they were individuals who couldn't play music at all and were duds for networking.


A lot of people I turned down showed a lot of hate for the artists I cover, or weren't passionate enough about the artists I cover.

And another thing that adds to this insanity is the fact that a lot of the individuals don't use common sense when responding. Instead of getting responses from individuals who like pop and soft rock music who are casual musicians, I get responses from individuals who play hard rock, heavy metal, and classic rock, and who already found their music buddies years ago.


And another thing I don't understand is why when I ask for further information about the given suggestion or how to use to do something, I get bombarded with replies like "do it yourself" or "quit whining" or "you're being an asshole", instead of reaching someone who can relate to the problem I'm having and actually have much longer discussions, and heck, maybe even more private discussions through e-mail.

Around and around it goes. This is one of the biggest circle jerk threads I've ever seen and you should know you can't have a circle jerk unless there are people willing to lend a hand. Pun intended!

Around and around it goes. This is one of the biggest circle jerk threads I've ever seen and you should know you can't have a circle jerk unless there are people willing to lend a hand. Pun intended!

STOP making a big deal out of everything. As pointed out, I already know the basics of what I need to try, but not specifics, and reaching individuals who can relate more easily to my story and unlike the majority don't acuse me of making excuses or rudely turning their suggestion down.

I had a lot of good reasons for turning some of the more specific suggestions down, because the person wasn't thinking about what I was looking for from a paastime daytime activity standpoint, but was suggesting it from a business/career standpoint.

And of course, some people give up WAY too easily on me, when a missunerstanding occurs. Instead of coming to me and talking about the simple missunerstanding. Other people start chiming in and making observations about me and making jokes at my expense, and before you know it, the oriiginal questions I had are completely lost.

Another thing that would've been helpful is to be able to talk to the person about the reccommendation, like discuss success stories, and how things work there, and whether or not there were a moderate amount of guys who play the kind of music I enjoy there. This refers both to websites, and of course, music veneus wihtin my city.


Don't give up on me because of a simple missunderstanding that got out of hand. That's ALL this craziness is.