Black57 wrote:
Craig, that sounds great and thanks for including step-dads. My hubby is the step-dad to my children and truly loves being a dad. We wonder sometimes, but he has come up to the plate and batted the ball outta the stadium.
That's AWESOME Mary!
It's a difficult role. You love them like your own, but you can't try and replace their father's role in their lives (even when they don't really deserve that place MORALLY - And sadly, there
ARE some fathers out there who are terrible influences on their own children)
I have three step-kids, but one is in juvenile right now. We drive 8 hours round trip to visit him every two weeks, but the "dad" (who only has to drive 2 hours) doesn't even come to meet us there, but every 2 or 3 months, and even then he will sometimes just pick up the other two for a few hours, and not even bother to go in and visit the son that is going through the most right now.
Even still... I feel like a child would have a hole in their hearts, not to have some kind of relationship with their father, and I tend to go out of my way ALL THE TIME, to make sure he visits them occassionally. I just watch that they don't bring his bad influence back to
OUR home.
I know there are real dads here, who have since divorced maybe though, and I THANK YOU, for those of you, who have made sure to stay involved in your children's lives as much as possible... but also I say thanks to the step dads who fill that role, when the fathers don't remain involved much in their children's lives.
It's always best, if
BOTH FAMILIES can be on the same page, for the sake of the children... but that is... SADLY, a somewhat rare thing it seems.
