i'm thinking about letting my girl friend sing in my band. We argue enough already but she can really sing well. She's watching me type this post so i must be real carefull of what i say. I know many of you have been in this situation
Biggest problem - when you argue it spills over into the band. Don't do it unless you can keep the personal stuff separate, & I"m doubting that you can, from what you said.
Women break up acts as often as drugs & alcohol. If you can handle all 3 well, you're WAY ahead of me...er...the game.