First I lived in Lubbock, TX, and a friend of mine, who had a lot of band experience, was going to play guitar, and I was going to sing...but then he got busy at work and had to bail. Okay, that's fine because I know he couldn't help it.
Then we moved to Tuscaloosa, AL and I decided I still wanted to do this band thing. I have sung briefly with a few friends' bands and live band karaoke and such, and it's just a big thrill. I know I have the voice to pull it off after years of vocal training and experience.
So I posted flyers around town, went here on Bandmix, etc. Twice in Tuscaloosa, I had people answer me, and we met up, and then...it fell apart before we even had a second rehearsal. The first time, the drummer was great, but the lead guitar player and bass player were flaky. The first would not practice and the second would not show.
The second time, we couldn't get a second guitar player, so the others bailed.
I moved to Columbus, GA in June (we keep moving because of my husband's job), so I posted flyers. I finally got some calls toward the end of the year, and last week I met up with two guitar players. We had a potential drummer, but he had no transportation except for his bicycle and none of us wanted to give him a ride. I called a business card I had found for another drummer, and he said he was interested last weekend, but then he bailed today. Our first rehearsal is supposed to be tomorrow!
At least he did refer me to someone else, and if that person doesn't respond I have another person here that I can email. But I am holding my breath that I don't lose either of the other two. It just seems cursed.
Is this a common problem? Why are musicians so flaky, or is it all artist types? I've been a singer for a long time, and I have always been a fairly reliable person. I have known plenty of non-musicians who are flaky, too, so maybe it's just a bad rep they get? What do you all think?
I am also in contact with a keyboard player here, and I am still looking for another guitar player (our "lead guitar player" is not very experienced and says he would rather play rhythm guitar if we can get someone else).
Wish me luck!!