I'm the guitarist in an all girl band called La For Another and am in desperate need of advice. Most of the problems are between me and my drummer. We met through a flier and formed the band about a year ago. and everything was fine for a while then we started to have some problems. She and I have really different taste in music which I find very odd. I'm pretty much into ANY kind of rock (metal, indie, pop punk, punk) but my drummer is very picky. The only band we have in common is Green Day. She is really into riot girl music which I CAN'T STAND! And I thought my taste was pretty flexible, but she just wants to be a riot girl band, and I refuse.
It's also pretty annoying because I write all of the songs and it is very irritating to work your ass off on a song for like 2 weeks and have your band member say "ew" to it (which is all she says). But I kinda feel like she has no right to be so critical. I mean she is a great drummer, but I've been studying music for 13 years and can play 5 instruments. She, however, doesn't even know what quarter notes are. She gets angry when I show up with a new song and says she want to write one. But all she does is give me lyrics (which suck) and tells me to write a guitar part to them. But I can't do it because I always write the guitar part first.
Another thing she is doing is this obsession she has with how we look on stage. At our shows, I wear a t-shirt and jeans, I don't stress over it too much. She, however, wears this short backless dress that I personally thinks looks rediculous at a punk venue. She actually looks slutty. I try to have a good head and just think "As long as I'm not wearing it," and tolerate her decisions, but lately she actually gets on my about what I wear and says "We're never going to get famous if you don't start dressing cute." But I think I dress fine! There's no talking to this girl.
The second person that is giving me some concern is my singer. She lives about an hour away from us and when she asked to join we asked her if she would be okay with comming to practice and stuff and she said "She would do anything." Well, she works full time at a pet store because she dropped out of college. She works from like 2-9pm or something. Because we have so many shoes comming up, I asked her if she would be willing to change her hours in the mornings so we could practice more than 2 days a week. She got pissed and said no because she doesn't feel like getting up at 9am. I'm sorry, but that's just lazy in my opinion.
And the last thing with my singer is that she is VERY overweight and I was wondering if that would effect us. I know I'm going to hell for talking like this but she's not like queen latifa overweight where she is heavy and classy at the same time, she's like trashy. I don't know I just need someone's opinion on this.
Okay, to sum up.
1. My drummer's strange music taste
2. My drummer's urge to control what I wear
3. My singer's schedule
4. My singer's weight
Also, keep in mind that my drummer is 20 and my singer is 21 while I am 18. They have a lot less respect for me becasue of my age.
listen to us at www.myspace.com/laforanother
It's also pretty annoying because I write all of the songs and it is very irritating to work your ass off on a song for like 2 weeks and have your band member say "ew" to it (which is all she says). But I kinda feel like she has no right to be so critical. I mean she is a great drummer, but I've been studying music for 13 years and can play 5 instruments. She, however, doesn't even know what quarter notes are. She gets angry when I show up with a new song and says she want to write one. But all she does is give me lyrics (which suck) and tells me to write a guitar part to them. But I can't do it because I always write the guitar part first.
Another thing she is doing is this obsession she has with how we look on stage. At our shows, I wear a t-shirt and jeans, I don't stress over it too much. She, however, wears this short backless dress that I personally thinks looks rediculous at a punk venue. She actually looks slutty. I try to have a good head and just think "As long as I'm not wearing it," and tolerate her decisions, but lately she actually gets on my about what I wear and says "We're never going to get famous if you don't start dressing cute." But I think I dress fine! There's no talking to this girl.
The second person that is giving me some concern is my singer. She lives about an hour away from us and when she asked to join we asked her if she would be okay with comming to practice and stuff and she said "She would do anything." Well, she works full time at a pet store because she dropped out of college. She works from like 2-9pm or something. Because we have so many shoes comming up, I asked her if she would be willing to change her hours in the mornings so we could practice more than 2 days a week. She got pissed and said no because she doesn't feel like getting up at 9am. I'm sorry, but that's just lazy in my opinion.
And the last thing with my singer is that she is VERY overweight and I was wondering if that would effect us. I know I'm going to hell for talking like this but she's not like queen latifa overweight where she is heavy and classy at the same time, she's like trashy. I don't know I just need someone's opinion on this.
Okay, to sum up.
1. My drummer's strange music taste
2. My drummer's urge to control what I wear
3. My singer's schedule
4. My singer's weight
Also, keep in mind that my drummer is 20 and my singer is 21 while I am 18. They have a lot less respect for me becasue of my age.
listen to us at www.myspace.com/laforanother