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So after working my ass off by promoting, bringing up the RN charts from 172 to 82, getting the runaround, not played a show in 7 months(since I've been in the band), practicing less and for an hour, negativity, bad ideas...etc. I finally quit this band full of slackers. I wanted to cry. The music was good, but that's it.

Then I talked to a former band member of mine who told me everything about his experiences and perks, that totally went against everything I was hearing.

I was borrowing a bass rig at practice, but I'm getting one tomorrow to find other bands. Plus, I have a drummer I can try out as a guitarist. If I have time for three bands, I'll jump in a tribute band. Thinking if I can pull it off I can work part-time and pay the bills. If anything, I'll be out playing, having fun meeting new people...etc.

I'm feeling great and unchained. Anybody have any similar stories like this? Where losing meant liberation and more creative options?

Oh yea. I was in a band that never did shows. The band had tons of songs and I took the time to learn all the good ones but at practice we did the same 3 songs over and over.

I really stayed in it for the chill 24hr rehearsal studio.

That all came to an end when they got jealous of the hot girls that were hanging out when I was moonlighting in the studio making real music.

Kruliosis wrote:So after working my ass off by promoting, bringing up the RN charts from 172 to 82, getting the runaround, not played a show in 7 months(since I've been in the band), practicing less and for an hour, negativity, bad ideas...etc. I finally quit this band full of slackers. I wanted to cry. The music was good, but that's it.

Then I talked to a former band member of mine who told me everything about his experiences and perks, that totally went against everything I was hearing.

I was borrowing a bass rig at practice, but I'm getting one tomorrow to find other bands. Plus, I have a drummer I can try out as a guitarist. If I have time for three bands, I'll jump in a tribute band. Thinking if I can pull it off I can work part-time and pay the bills. If anything, I'll be out playing, having fun meeting new people...etc.

I'm feeling great and unchained. Anybody have any similar stories like this? Where losing meant liberation and more creative options?

Sounds like you did the right thing...

Del Paxton said it best:
"Something always makes you crazy... money, women, the road... hell just time. Ain't no way to keep a band together. Bands come and go. You gotta keep on playin' no matter with who."

That Thing You Do

Marcus, you play the guitar beautifully!

Even if you don't play out it's a learning thing, which is always good. But quit as soon as you stop getting anything out of it. You did the right thing.

Yeah, all I did was get my chops up while carrying the band more than anyone else(not being arrogant here). Their last members quit due to being ripped off and only playing 15 shows in 5 years. I could go into all kinds of scenerios about my own experiences, but it would be a long story. In a nutshell, I got used and lied to from the beginning. You can only be deceitful for so long until you screw yourself.

I've been enduring drama off and on since last May.

Kruliosis wrote:Yeah, all I did was get my chops up while carrying the band more than anyone else(not being arrogant here). Their last members quit due to being ripped off and only playing 15 shows in 5 years. I could go into all kinds of scenerios about my own experiences, but it would be a long story. In a nutshell, I got used and lied to from the beginning. You can only be deceitful for so long until you screw yourself.

I've been enduring drama off and on since last May.

Move on and realize it's them, not you.

I'd take you if I was closer to you or vice versa.
People that work hard and have a strong work ethic are rare these days, but not on this forum..

If I make it back to CA on a semi-perm basis, I'll definitely look you up !

(wink)

I wish you would, Scott! Even my ex-guitarist said I was driven and had a lot of ambition. He's such a dick that I haven't even bothered telling him or the rest of the band that I'm out, cause they never answer their phones or return my calls. I won't hear from them this whole week, even if I don't make practice. Assholes! I got us a killer gig with some legendary bands and they didn't say sh*t...maybe because they're so out of it...they said they never heard of these bands. Of course, they didn't look them up either. I hate the vocalists lyrics! They go f**k you 30x and then Rapist 20x in the song, maybe more. Cmon, 3 months and that's all you can come up with? What a dip!

Heck, I just traded some gear for a killer 1978 Peavey head(700 watts) in near mint condition with a 4x10 GK cab. This thing sounds great! So now I have a killer bass and guitar halfstack. I'm ready to go, and willing to do whatever. Need to get my ass out there and play!

Even a journey of a thousand miles begins with just one step.


I'd like to find the guy that first said that and slap the crap out of him...

I'm dealing with a head issue...need help not meds...haha! Do I call and tell them I'm out? Or just let them taste their own medicine, cause they don't seem to care about this band in the first place. I've never quit a band in my life. So some advice is needed. Keep in mind that these clowns never respond to anything, and even hanging out with them is lame.

Kruliosis wrote:I'm dealing with a head issue...need help not meds...haha! Do I call and tell them I'm out? Or just let them taste their own medicine, cause they don't seem to care about this band in the first place. I've never quit a band in my life. So some advice is needed. Keep in mind that these clowns never respond to anything, and even hanging out with them is lame.

F 'em, don't say a word and let them try to call you, for a change.

Meanwhile, find the next better bunch 'o musicians.

Quittings better than being fired.

I'd go over and tell them to their face
why I was quitting, and try to agitate
them at the same time.

My first inclination would be to let them know you're out. You don't need a long written out explanation, just tell them you want to pursue other things - in business, career decisions, never burn bridges you don't need to burn, even if you hate the bridge with a passion. Just choose not to cross the bridge - one day, you may find yourself running for a bridge, and that one bridge you hate but left standing, may get to where you need to be in a crunch one day.

Cheers!