Musician Forum - Band Discussion Board - BandMix

I was in a newly formed rock band that contacted me from here some time back. So, after hearing the band and really enthaused about them, I decided to join there combo and see where it goes. We rehersed like any normal band would and regularly. After many weeks that turned into months of rehersals the band had to relocate to another rehersal place. Seem to me our talents were worth a much better facility and room to grow. It was a complement to me.
So we all moved to the new facility, set up the gear, and began our normal rehersals. Out of the blue one day, the drummer gets blowed with the guitarist, flicks his drum sticks in the air, walks out rehersal stating the guitarist always complain about coming to rehersals. I was the bassist. I really didnt know what the who that was about. I missed the arguement as it took place before rehersal that night, before I arrived.
About a week later, the drummer and I got into a arguement and I dont remember why to this day.
I really liked the band that I was in. It was a great experience to start with. I packed my gear and left.
The band didnt survive. They have split with the guitarist not giving a damn about a band any longer. What causes a fledgeling band to have inadvertent splits?

Unfortunately, the world is full of humans and we guitarists are a subspecies of that genus.

Ha. Sorry about your troubles. People are people are people. It's hard to get 4 or 5 people together that are committed to the same idea.

Good luck in your future. Don't give up.

1 out of 100,000 people are responsible, dependable, and dedicated.

None of them are musicians

How about this T. Timeline only, watch the bootleg video on my profile.
Drum left drags me to "super jamm" about 30 of his friends. Drum right asks me to join band with bass player, 3 weeks later 2nd guitar in band hooks up with old girlfriend, both quit because they were friends girlfriend didn't want him in a band. Bass player heart broken, bring in drummer on left, very casual but good time. Realize bass player not that good, invite various people in to jamm, cool. Funniest one was cookie a big dude from the south shore, man this guy wailed on keyboards, guitar ,and bass , and when he sat down behind the drums I was truly inspired. Needless to say he had a great time, we all did until he said we all rocked except for our bass player who needed a lot more practice. Our bass player never invited him back again.
Here is the new twist, Mark , the bass player developed Lou Gherigs disease, a fatal , horrible disease, at age 55. Ok so now we know he's gonna die. He wants to do a show. OK. He has never done a show and now he wants to be a rock star, and he really isn't a good bass player. Any way being the capitalist pig that I am I got 2 other bands involved and went out and rented the old Islip Theater. We sold tickets and promoted the whole thing and actually sold out enough to encourage Mark that he was better than he was. We had a good time, my first show in 20 years and I felt we honored a dead mans wishes. It wasn't enough. The next thing I know is the local arts council is sending a committee to audition us for their summer concert series. For reasons I won't go into detail about they loved my songs, my vocals, and my guitar work, and we were given a spot on the calender way to many established bands would kill for.
Ok as Marks disease progressed he digressed to the point where he was weak and becoming angry at the world. Remember this was just supposed to be a jamm for fun. anyway I realized it wasn't going to work and we were going to look stupid, so I called the first drummer and asked if he would mind helping to make the band look better, he agreed , Mark didn't,(remember he quit), the guitar on the far right, now this is funny, was Marks best friend, I invited him in also to cover up a fading bass player. Get this, Mark did not want his best friend on stage with him. Ok now we are 2 weeks out from doing this show and nobody has time to get together. We had one rehearsal a week before, full of animosity, so much so that when we finally played, I don't think any of us wanted to be there.
It was HOT and it was a dead mans moment of glory and T you are probably saying what the heck a little fight in my band. Bands break up for many reasons. Some are to strange to believe. I wouldn't lose any sleep over your situation.

Mark died a short while after that. Play hard lifes short.

It's called hair up ass disease. Try and get with people not afflicted with it.

Tracena wrote:I was in a newly formed rock band that contacted me from here some time back. So, after hearing the band and really enthaused about them, I decided to join there combo and see where it goes. We rehersed like any normal band would and regularly. After many weeks that turned into months of rehersals the band had to relocate to another rehersal place. Seem to me our talents were worth a much better facility and room to grow. It was a complement to me.
So we all moved to the new facility, set up the gear, and began our normal rehersals. Out of the blue one day, the drummer gets blowed with the guitarist, flicks his drum sticks in the air, walks out rehersal stating the guitarist always complain about coming to rehersals. I was the bassist. I really didnt know what the who that was about. I missed the arguement as it took place before rehersal that night, before I arrived.
About a week later, the drummer and I got into a arguement and I dont remember why to this day.
I really liked the band that I was in. It was a great experience to start with. I packed my gear and left.
The band didnt survive. They have split with the guitarist not giving a damn about a band any longer. What causes a fledgeling band to have inadvertent splits?

It just seems to me there are a sh*t load of quitters out there , for one reason or another. Plus the last time I checked, the music industry is replete with cry-babies, whiners, Self-centered prima donas, and ego maniacs... Ya gotta believe that the odds of assembling 4-5 people without these 'hurdles' is so far fetched that it almost seems ridiculous to even 'hope' for anything better.

This also illustrates why somebody has to be the alpha dog in the band, and demonstrate the kind of leadership that helps the band mates keep perspective, when things start to derail. If I had been in that band, I might have asked that drummer what his issue was, and what could we do to fix it... The way I see it, if the mates do everything they can to keep the band cohesive, then if there is a member who just isn't working out...It makes it so much easier to kick the guy out of the band, or have the band leave the guy)

You gotta kiss a lot of frogs...

Glen's story might sound outlandish to a non-musician - not to me!

I worked a couple months in Atlanta with a singer who was quite good, lots of presence but who told us he was only working until he could raise the money to get his stripper wife some breast implants. Had to be joking, right?

Wrong.

I'm very grateful to God that out of all of it - I was able to play in at least a couple bands that had it right and worked as a team.


Talbot

Music is the easy part, people are the hard part. Never forget it.

It really takes the right equation! You really have to have peeps in your band that love what the band is doing and are fairly easy to get along with! I've put soo much effort into quite a few projects over the years only to have them split up due to severe personality issues, members in multiple projects,
One member just doesn't like a certain member for whatever reason, Gigs started slowing down or attendance started shrinking due to waaay too many gigs in a short period(one reason I left a project), You actually realize you don't like 70% of the tunes you're playing and neither do the friends that used to come down and see you(my other reason for leaving). You spent sooo much precious time learning 60 tunes and soo much energy that you just burn out( me again....hence my recent hiatus).. It's gotta be FUN....you all gotta be FRIENDS... you have to put aside the financial let-downs and just love being in the band no matter what. When you find yourself saying "*sigh* I got another gig tonight..now I gotta load all my crap up and tear it down and get home at sunrise, etc..." You know it's time to get out!

Hope that was a different perspective

TheJohnny7Band wrote:Music is the easy part, people are the hard part. Never forget it.

Needs to be on a T-shirt...

I’ve bookmarked this because I found it interesting. I would be very interested to hear more news on this. Thanks!

Franchise Business
Auto Insurance Summerlin

Habibs42=spambot

HEY BANDMIX !!!

Can you read this?

SPAM = NO $ for YOU.

Any light bulbs going on?