You sound like a bit frustrated. You shouldn't be. Just don't get hung up on following the crowd. You have some really talented guys working with you, and you are getting stuck on some momentary perceptions.
Time to lead not follow. Look at Bob, Sans, Chaeya, (I can't list them all) Doing their own thing. I love their music, and I'm actually liking yours. This is coming from a solidly stuck in the last century rocker,(I KEEP AWAY FROM RUN AROUND SUE,,,hey,hey,hey)

Call me grampa.
You're on track, great players, creative ideas,great track recordings. (Those MESAS boogie)! I listened to your posted music, and when someone like you gets to the point you are at, it is hard get truly constructive criticism. Take it for what its worth, maybe nothing.
1 mastering sucks. Ran it through studio speakers, head phones, pa speakers, and good normal stereo speakers. Every where I played it it sounded so different, I was having fun.
2 tracks are all f...g great, Its not the playing, its what happened after. You have to watch the use of effects. The vocals were killed by over use of effects. Careful of the mix before you go back to 1.
3 The most commercial song you have is SCARED OF THE DARK. You have to play that game if you want people to remember you guys. Write more pedantic commercial material and don't follow the screamo bands. Not where your at. OH WELL,,, Lead or Follow.