#143510 by fisherman bob
Tue Mar 29, 2011 6:25 am
Tue Mar 29, 2011 6:25 am
I know it may be hard to believe but I've been kicked out of bands. The first time it happened to me I was devastated. A few years later I actually played in a band with the same guys who kicked me out. We would like to think that our bandmates are almost like family. They are NOT family, unless they actually are family. Bands are in no way, shape, or form a substitute for family as much as we would like them to be. It's hard not to take things like this personally but that's what you have to do. Blood is thicker than water. Your real family is your family. Wives, brothers, sisters, children, THEY are family. We want to be accepted, we yearn for attention in our musical endeavors. Perhaps part of what we yearn for was missing when we were growing up, lack of attention. Kerry, knowing a little about your past I commiserate with you, I understand your pain. Maybe you need to re-define what being in a band means to you. If you take things like this personally then perhaps in the future treat your bandmates as professional colleagues. That's really what they are. Bands come and go. I can't remember all the different people I've performed with over the years. I have lost contact with nearly all of them. They are NOT blood. I may NEVER quit playing in bands. I'm a musician, that's what I do. I never get too close to band members. I know they will always come and go...