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For those who do not know him my son is autistic. He's almost 23 years old. He's generally good natured and has one attribute which might save him. He's about 6ft 2 inches and 257 lbs of muscle. He can't talk hardly at all and has bad temper tantrums occasionally (he's broken two windshileds with backhands from a seated postion in the front seat and there's numerous welts in my car's roof from his head). When somebody is handicapped God usually gives them attributes that make survival easier. My son has intimidating power and physical presence. Once in a while I have to wrestle him to keep him from hurting himself. It takes every bit of my strength and stamina. People generally steer clear of him and I consider that is God's way of protecting him. He's part native American Indian and one time we went into a Mexican restaurant which was full of Mexicans, undoubtably some were gang members (lots of ink). He looks very Mexican and you should see their eyes light up trying to figure out who this giant Mexican was. It's like having a bodyguard with me...

lol. He's got your back for sure eh?!

Hayden King wrote:lol. He's got your back for sure eh?!

Funny thing is he wouldn't hurt anybody but himself. I knew early on he had superhuman strength. He started exhibiting it in his early teens. When he was about twelve years old I was sitting on my La-Z-Boy recliner and he was laying on the sofa which was right next to the recliner at a 90 degree angle. We used to play a game where I grabbed his hand and told him he couldn't get away from me. He's laying on his side and puts his hand out for me to grab and then he starts pulling me and the recliner over. I'm talking with NO LEVERAGE. I'm 225 lbs and the recliner probably weighs at least thirty pounds. I knew I had to teach him NOT to hurt people and protect them. I tell him this over and over again. He did knock down a guy in high school who inadvertedly yelled into his ear. My son has hyper-sensitive hearing and thought the guy was yelling at him. Thank God nobody got hurt but his teacher had a heart attack. I used to pick him up at school every day and when he walks the kids used to part in front of him like Moses and the Red Sea. I remember one time one of the kids saying "Uh-oh here comes Merlin." Right now he's being watched during the day like a hawk by a former college linebacker. One of the real problems he's going to face is when he has to leave home to live in a group home. The personnel there have to have the size and strength to be able to handle him. I can't watch him forever and I fear for his safety when he finally leaves home....

That's rough Bob. I feel for ya bro!

God does truly have a way for looking out for his children Bob.
Especially those so challenged in life.


Part of that is YOU. Don't underestimate the roll you will play in his life.
Even when your gone.

sanshouheil wrote:God does truly have a way for looking out for his children Bob.
Especially those so challenged in life.


Part of that is YOU. Don't underestimate the roll you will play in his life.
Even when your gone.

Thanks, I do all I can. It's hard to be Superman to somebody twice as strong as yourself, but at least I'm trying and not shirking my responsibility.

Thank god you're here, bob. I can think of a LOT of ppl that couldn't &/or wouldn't do what you do for your family.

You're one of those heroes that goes unsung.