General Music Chat

another secret,
if you had enough money to pay someone to put you on the charts you wouldn't need to be on the charts.

My wife is very negative about my music which is starting to grate on me. i can't just tell her to piss off but since that is a big piece of my life it's starting to become a real problem.


When I lost my job I was shocked by the number of 'friends' who seemed to enjoy noting how skimpy my chances were, given my age, lack of education and rough neck attitude. It was an eye opener.

But the Lord is good - I just signed up with a company of folks just like me - hard headed, indepenent and aggressive. I've known some of them for several years and really consider this a blessing since I met them when they did some consulting for me on my last gig. Lot's of great bleeding edge tech to play with and for once, i'm NOT the most eccentric guy on the team!

Talbot

That's awsome Mike... I have been in similar situations...(job wise)

As for receiving grief from the wife,,,I think all (if not most) women have the Radar set to "Income earning". Most girls that I have met have no true appreciation for musical effort (unless they too are musicians).

The biggest complaint I hear is "music is the other woman or mistress". SO, One solution might be to simply butter her up with a few shopping sprees, dinners, or even dancing... (And then take the wife out too... LOL!)

Some folks want to succeed 'big' in the music world.
Read this article.
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http://www.abugfreemind.com/success/how ... -musician/
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It's a bit repetitive, but it makes a valid point.
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I expect a ton of disparaging remarks . . . Every pessimist will try to convince you that they are realists, and - whilst laughing at you - try to convince you that you are naive.
80 % of people think it can't be done, but if someone has succeeded at a thing, you can too.
If everyone you talk to tells you that you can't succeed, then you are talking to the wrong people. They will always be folks you tell you to give up before you try.
I caution you to ignore anyone who tries to trash your dreams.
Without a positive mindset, nothing can be accomplished, though, eh?.

Its not wrong..but it starts reading like a Tony Robbins pep talk...

Tho I absolutely agree about the power of success mindedness... I think that would apply across all vocations...not just music & entertainment..

What the article does not mention...(very key point) is that you got to surround yourself with successful people. To do that, you start by dumping all the shitheads and assholes that keep hanging around and suck out your energy or spirit.... This Christmas , I told two people to f**k off , ...never wanna see em again... They tried to drag me down and I had just had enough... One guy ..everytime he opened his mouth, it was to cut somebody, or something down... Finally he did it to me... where it became intolerable... and that's when I cancelled my subscription to 'that' friendship.

Success begets success...So it stands to reason that successful people breed successful opportunities...

Any successful opportunity is always driven by the desire of somebody to work his/her ass off.

I have to laugh at high-school kids these days...They see success on TV and totally don't get the 15 years it took for the artist to get there...

Finally, Success does not necessarily require that we win the trophy... I stood up before a crowd of 20 people on New years, and played my original song... They dug it, I dug it and I wouldn't trade that for anything..To me, I was extremely successful that night.

The world is full of negative people.
Learn to ignore them.
I get blasted all the time by anyone and everyone, but the music keeps rolling out like a ball going down hill. lol

Case in point, I just traded a guitar for a Marshall 4104 combo.
I showed it to a friend of mine and he looked like was going to cry.
I felt like asking him why he was getting upset, but I kinda already knew.

People don't want to be happy for you, they want to be happy for them.
If that doesn't fit, sometimes they get angry.
Over and over we say that a good musician has a thick skin.

Listen to everyone and disregard any and all that appear nutty as a fruit bat. Plenty of them have issue(s); mental, personal and physical.

"Don't make your problems, my problems".

A cop told me the above once as he wrote me for speeding..
It's cold but it's reality.

Pretty good article, it is kind of what my mind set has been all along.
That's why me and my drummer did so much with such a bad band in Alaska. People liked us because we played and were friendly, venues liked us because we were helpful and understood their demands. We did well because we did well. I just hope I can do the same thing with this band too. We have a lot of strings pulling in some bad directions.