I don't know if I agree with the advice...
But Billy, since we are sharing some life stories... Thinking back...
Over 40 years ago, I was going to school in Boston. I knew this little hippie girl from California. She wasn't all that much to look at, but boy could she play fiddle. Boy could she play a crowd.
More than once she would ask me to "cover" her, be a look out... Playing in the trolley terminals was prohibited.
Anyway, I was shocked because in a half hour she had people dropping tens and twenties in her little fiddle case. Part of my job was to pull the cash out her case to keep her from appearing to make to much. There was very little coinage given to her. I was amazed at the generosity of people paying for her FREE ticket.
We never stayed for more than a half hour, but she rewarded me with a quick 50 bucks. She only did it when she needed some extra cash. I know she was walking out with at least 200 bucks.
Laughing my asss off when I think about bands that I played in... 200 bucks plus part of the door... For, hours of rehearsal and set up and buying equipment.
Anyway Billy...Just swapping stories. There was a pizza place around the corner we called "SLICE" because many out of state students never heard of a pizza place that would sell one slice. Back then, pocketing that kind of money allowed me the treat of going out and spending one whole dollar for 2(two) slices. Come to think about... It wasn't the best pizza, the cheese was cheap, it was flavorless, and it took a healthy amount of red pepper and parmesan cheese to make it palatable...(Sorry I still don't think pineapple belongs on pizza.)
Did I ever tell you about the three legged dog that stole a slice from a drunk? That was up in New Paltz NY. Way too funny watching this guy stagger after this poor little crippled dog running away with his slice of pizza hanging out of his doggy mouth.
I don't think I would want that slice back anyway...
Dayne, nobody knows what to tell you. Myself included. Good luck and may you have some good news in the coming new year. I will wish you a Merry Christmas, but please don't interpret it as anything more than a heartfelt position of goodwill. I am not making lighthearted remarks about your situation. I hope you find some resolution.