Mike Nobody wrote:poprockdude wrote:Actually, correction: I'm not done using this forum, however, after this one little rant and final question is honestly answered, I'm done with this topic, and done trying to reach guys who are easy to talk to on these forums.
You guys wonder why I'm so crazed? It's because I keep running into people who are way too sensitive or who love being trolls. It's aggravating.
It also hurts that some people give up on me way too easily, and point fingers at me and say that I'm making excuses. I keep running into people who can't think outside the box. This topic wouldn't exist if people agreed with me about what I stated about how trying a church wouldn't work very well, and worked with me to find something else.
Why am I running into so many people who have the "do it yourself" attitude as opposed to people who share their experiences good and bad, and who help each other find success in their music endeavors?
Part of the problem, from what I can see, is that you want a musician friend but are unwilling or unable to deal with musicians.
An analogy comes to mind that I once heard from a psychiatrist,
"Happiness is like a butterfly.
The more you chase it and chase it, the more it will just elude you.
But, if you just sit quietly, turn your mind to other thoughts, it will gently rest on your shoulder."
No, THAT isn't the problem. The problem is the fact that I'm not reaching someone who wants to be my friend first, and who plays music as a hobby, but isn't already involved in other music projects. The idea was to just hang out as friends and do a variety of different activities.
Another thing that annoys me is how people have responded to my request over the years. Instead of reaching someone who shows a passion for a good chunk of the artists I listed, I end up reaching someone who is VERY limited in his music tastes, and hardly knows any of the songs, or instead of reaching someone who was smart enough to call during his free time for example, after work/classes were done, that given person would call while at work, or while heading off to work or school, or when he was late for work or class. Also despite the fact that I would put in the ad that I'm legally blind, to prevent people from sending me text messages, and to prevent me from reaching people who live in a city close to Baton Rouge, most of the people who responded don't use good common sense and ASK the right questions.
Also it would be nice to meet some of these music buddies through another common interest group, like through a video gaming club. Since I started this search in 2007, there have been a good chunk of individuals who didn't work out very well musically, but considered staying friends with that person, but instead of that person agreeing, he got all upset with me, and just blew me off, as if the ONLY thing he was interested in was pursuing his music career.