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Maybe you're just in the wrong place - moving will fix that, selling your gear won't!

If you want to make searching work for you, post some music on your BM profile. Start a reverbnation, soundcloud, or other place profile, too, and post some tunes. Put more in your 'about me' sections so people will have a better idea what you are looking for and how you would fit into their plans.
As has been discussed here before, talk to others at places whre bands play the music you like, at music stores, check craigslist, go to open mic jams, etc - work every angle.

I see so many CL ads from people who seem like they probably don't have much going for them - because they put something up like 'I have years of playing experience and want to form a heavy metal band like ....' I read something like that and think 'Who are you and why would I want to play with you?"

Thanks for words. Let us see what happens.

It used to be easier to form a band before the internet blew up. What went wrong? I think people took it for granted.

There's a lot of people who either can't get it together or just simply flake out. I can't tell you how many hours I've spent wasting all my time and energy over the phone only to get no response later on.

Bands are hard work, and some egos can be really painfully tough to work with, cause some don't want to agree to some happy medium. It's either their way or nothing at all sometimes. You know, like Burger King.

Overall, its a lot of talk and nothing in return. I'm still working things out. As I continue to search, I've noticed there are some WEIRD people out there, and even WEIRDER excuses to skip a jam.

Just keep persisting. Don't let the whole game mess with your mind cause it can drain inspiration...as least it has for me at times. Best to you!

I really am starting to wonder if she has read any of these replies. Have you noticed that not one response has been returned? There's some really good advice here none-the-less.

I'm soaking it all in, too. There's no point in letting valuable tips go to waste.

I'm glad to hear that. Seriously. Take it all in, bro!

Keep the tips and encouragement coming.

BTW I have found Karaoke singers to be the worst. Many think the band is the karaoke machine and do not really put in the effort to "be" in the band - my experience. I have heard so many excuses to miss a practice. Finding a good band is gold. Good meaning they show up and are reliable and committed.

BTW I have found Karaoke singers to be the worst. Many think the band is the karaoke machine and do not really put in the effort to "be" in the band - my experience. I have heard so many excuses to miss a practice. Finding a good band is gold. Good meaning they show up and are reliable and committed.

I believe more and nmore that the first step in finding serious band mates id to first find serious business partners...Then filter down to those who are musicians...

There's a local bar here that has a karaoke night - with a live band called 'Liquid Courage'! Can you imagine week after week of playing for drunken karaoke singers? "Kill Me Now!"

As I said to the bassist in my band when I was helping move equipment - there are 2 kinds of bands to be in: 1) 'band for hire', basically working working for a singer/frontman; 2) equal partnership - everyone has a say and no one person is in charge.
Option 2 is the hardest to make work - if people cannot learn to compromise, are too hard-headed, or have different goals.

I know a guy plays in a Kareoke band. Claims to know 300 songs. I've heard him play often enough to give that some credance.

But when he gets past braggin' about all that, you see this sort of manic figure who had to stop drinking, drugging, etc; and get into a mindset that is making him crazy.

No thanks!

Talbot

Kareoke is an abomination to God.


Not really but it sucks just the same.

I'm not sure whats worse.
Drunk idiots who think they are musicians or drunk idiots whom thing they can sing.
Sound rather judgmental I know. But all my personal experience with Kareoke has been really bad.

I avoid it like the plague.

Then there are those parents / grandparents whom think it's cute for their kid to sing "with the band" or along with a CD they just happen to have with them

Give it a rest people

I really am starting to wonder if she has read any of these replies. Have you noticed that not one response has been returned? There's some really good advice here none-the-less.

Well, at least you know why she has no band. She seriously needs to be in a metal band...as long as it doesn't involve actually having to do anything or learn anything. So typical of so many young "musicians".

I really am starting to wonder if she has read any of these replies. Have you noticed that not one response has been returned? There's some really good advice here none-the-less.

Well, at least you know why she has no band. She seriously needs to be in a metal band...as long as it doesn't involve actually having to do anything or learn anything. So typical of so many young "musicians".

Was that the sound of your verbal foot hitting that midsection or what? lol

I'm in the exact same boat your in... I've been singing and recording and producing for 5 years now...5 years ago i gave up trying to start a band and bought my first few pieces of software and gear...Steven Slate Drums,Amplitube,a bass guitar, acoustic guitar and an electric which i always had since i was little And FL Studio or Logic Pro...You don't really need a band...Although i would keep pushing till you find some members...A solo artist is a lonely artist.
But if you haven't already i would start working on some ideas on your computer now to have ready for when you do find others...

Never did I ever think that in almost 5 years in looking for a "committed" bunch of guys that I would be back to square one. I am going to give it six more months - after that, sell my gear and go home. This "fun" hobby has become a nightmare.

It is now September and still no luck. Three more months and then I will pack it in. Sell my stuff and look for a hobby that does not need 4 idiots to play nice.

Make sure you find a hobby that is easy and doesn't require much committment.

Wouldn't want anything that you could do just because you had to do it because it was who you are.

Think on that.

Talbot